Trustworthy Stepfamily Expert Offers Single Parents a Guide to DatingSingle parents who are dating or want to begin a dating relationship wonder, How will dating affect my children and my parenting? They probably have figured out that "dating in a crowd" is complicated. Now they're looking for help. Ron Deal, who has counseled single parents and remarried couples for manyTrustworthy Stepfamily Expert Offers Single Parents a Guide to DatingSingle parents who are dating or want to begin a dating relationship wonder, How will dating affect my children and my parenting? They probably have figured out that "dating in a crowd" is complicated. Now they're looking for help. Ron Deal, who has counseled single parents and remarried couples for many years, helps single parents--as well as those who date them--navigate the potential pitfalls involved. He gives perspective on when a relationship may be harmful to the children as well as how it can be a blessing to all. Always at the forefront is the goal of strengthening families. Includes questions for individual or group study....
|Title||:||Dating and the Single Parent|
|Number of Pages||:||234 Pages|
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Dating and the Single Parent Reviews
The book seems to give some good advice, however, I really hated the way the author mentions his other books, online questionnaires, seminars, etc constantly. I felt like I was reading an infomercial script. A little bit of advice.... a lot of encouraging you to buy more products.
I received this book, in exchange for review from Bethany House. I read Dating and the Single Parent within the last week and I truly enjoyed this book. I didn���t read the book from the beginning, but started at chapters most relevant to me. I chose this book because one day I want to date, but I need to date the right way, versus may way. I also have two special kids, which adds additional challenges to dating. The first section, which stood out was Appendix 2, the sample purity pledge. I am currently celibate. Some days I want to date, but I need to date within God���s guidelines. The book listed activities for dating couples to engage in, such as light kissing and hugging, without being sexual or giving in to temptation. The book also discussed how couples should get a mentor to talk to, if they are tempted. Finally, the section provided bible verses, which related to sexual purity. Next, I enjoyed the first three chapters, which discussed dating with kids and dating readiness. The book states that individuals need to have a purpose in dating. The purpose need to have God put first. The book also discussed how people are selfish in dating. Some people date to find a (wo)man for them, companionship for them; love for them, but neglect to think about how the (wo)man will affect their kids. How will this person influence the kids? If a man is willing to date me and my two kids, I should consider how he will affect me, as well as them. His influence can affect their lives for eternity, which is why the couples should share similar spiritual beliefs (p. 31). People also need to determine if they are truly ready to date. Individuals need to look at past dating patterns. Have you matured and learned from those relationships OR are you still stuck doing the same thing (p. 33). Do you trust God the same, more, or less during relationships? Do you put God to the side when dating? Do your mate believe in God? Can you trust the person? How does he treat the kids? How do the kids treat him? All of these questions need to be answered when pursuing a Christian-Godly-based relationship.Other things which stood out in the book:Not rushing dating or marriage. Take your time to get to know the person. Stay true to your purpose. Get to know them on a mental, instead of a physical level. Trust in God to manage the relationship. In many cases, the kids and the significant other will compete for attention. Date for at least two years before considering marriage. Don���t date for at least two years after the divorce.Discernment Discernment Discernment. If something don���t feel right, leave. Know how your personality affects relationships.I loved this book. The book was just what I needed right now.
This book has a lot of great advice, questions and points to consider. I would recommend this to both the single parent and anyone who’s considering getting involved with a single parent or already is. It really helped give me a better picture of what all sides (the single parent, the new partner, the children) deal with during the process and how to move through divorce (or death of a spouse) and towards healing in healthy ways. By no means will this book tell you “yes you’re ready to date” or “your relationship is fantastic, move to marriage” – instead it gives you a very grounded in reality look at what life is like when you are no longer the “nuclear family” unit.For those that aren't Christian, there are many references to faith in this book which may seem off-putting (I’m a Christian and some of the purity aspects were a little off-putting to me and felt a little like a lecture), but despite that, there is a lot of great, sound advice in these pages if you’re willing to look past some of that and confront reality of what life is really like post-divorce or death of a spouse and moving into dating and possible remarriage. Be willing to look within yourself, be honest with yourself while reading this book, and be open to hearing things you might not want to.
Read this book before you begin dating as a single parent. It can potentially save you a lifetime of grief. the years of practical experience that Deal brings to this are invaluable wisdom for those who usually go into new relationships blinded by "love" and end up in situations that the do no not want to be in later. written from a strong evangelical perspective, Deal brings to real life experience with thousands of couples infused with godly counsel.
Alot of good material and very "to the point" instructions of what needs to happen for a healthy familyship not just couple ship between people where one of the parties is a singe parent. Even beneficial for the party that isn't the parent.
Good readingIt wasn't difficult to read and had sound practical advice. This is definitely a good tool in learning about blended families and remarriage.
Most of it was common sense, it seemed like a quarter of the book was devoted to promoting their other products.
a God inspired look at getting back in the dating pool after divorce with kids in the middle.
I read this for one of my marriage and family therapy classes but its a great read and I would recommend it to anyone who is a single parent.