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Children can experience many emotions when a parent is in jail or prison. They may be angry, sad, lonely, or scared. Sometimes friends act differently toward them. Sometimes the children begin acting differently too. In this important book, young readers will learn that even when it feels like nothing can get better again, there are ways they can improve their circumstanceChildren can experience many emotions when a parent is in jail or prison. They may be angry, sad, lonely, or scared. Sometimes friends act differently toward them. Sometimes the children begin acting differently too. In this important book, young readers will learn that even when it feels like nothing can get better again, there are ways they can improve their circumstances. Sending letters, talking to a trusted grown-up about their feelings, and even visiting a parent in jail or prison can help keep a parent close in their hearts. Use this title as a helpful tool to start a conversation with any child in this situation and to remind them they are not alone....

Title : Far Apart, Close in Heart: Being a Family when a Loved One is Incarcerated
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ISBN : 9780807512753
Format Type : Hardcover
Number of Pages : 32 Pages
Status : Available For Download
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Far Apart, Close in Heart: Being a Family when a Loved One is Incarcerated Reviews

  • Kendra
    2019-04-26 09:23

    That was rough. And also very gentle.

  • Melanie
    2019-05-01 08:21

    One day, we got a new book in the library about a little boy whose dad goes to jail (The Night Dad Went to Jail). A patron saw it in the new stack and laughed. "Why would anyone need this book?" he asked. I wanted to slap him, but since I have to control myself at work, I contented myself by saying, "Some kids do have parents who go to jail, and reading books about it can help them." (I wanted to add, "Just because it's not your life experience doesn't mean it isn't a valid problem," but again, self-control.) Anyway, ever since then I have made it a point to read every picture book I see about children with incarcerated parents. This one made me cry. It's covers so many different situations - one girl has both parents in jail, so she goes to foster care; one boy is teased by his basketball team; one girl worries that her mother doesn't love her anymore; another boy is angry because his mom had promised she wouldn't go back to jail. The children are all colors; some speak different languages. I love that how this book shows that many children have parents in jail, allowing children in the real world to connect to it. I loved the gamut of emotions felt by these children, and that some solutions were offered for the different situations. Children's feelings are validated. I loved it.

  • Phoebe
    2019-05-05 07:13

    I don't think this picture book about coping with having an incarcerated parent intends to be heartbreaking, but it is. Direct yet gentle, with a multi-ethnic cast, and unflinching in the emotional realities for young people, 'Far Apart, Close in Heart' is a rare, important book. The illustrations are really lovely, quiet, and masterful. They harken back to a different time, even as the subject is so timely.

  • Clementine
    2019-05-15 09:01

    A super accessible, super moving look at what kids feel when one of their parents is incarcerated. The illustrations and text provide a wide array of children and their experiences, and talk through many of the feelings and emotions kids might feel. With nearly 3 million children dealing with an incarcerated parent, this is an important and timely book.An author's note including tips for parents/caregivers/teachers/counselors is included. This is an important book for every library's collection.

  • Colleen Dougherty
    2019-04-26 13:08

    How sad that a book like this is necessary but when 2.7 million children have a parent incarcerated it is helpful to have a book to start a dialogue. Children reading the book can benefit when they see they are not alone. It is helpful that this book also includes a list of other resources on the topic and a page of tips for adults on helping a child cope with the sensitive situation by suggesting they select one of the characters they most identify with in the book. I don't have firsthand knowledge of this topic but can appreciate how it could help a child.

  • EricaEreads
    2019-04-30 12:30

    This is by far the best picture book I've read discussing kids facing their loved one's incarceration. Not only are the characters diverse, but their realities, feelings, and reactions are diverse, showing young readers that their feelings are valid and they are not alone. Endmatter provides resources for caregivers looking for more information, as well as some meaningful tips for how to discuss and care for kids that are going through this difficult process. In my mind a required text for all public libraries.

  • Maggie Ignasiak
    2019-05-26 07:17

    This is comforting and honest. I like how it encourages children to really live their truth and it's even a great tool for parents. My only non-positive critique is that I wish the story contained a scenario in which a child/family sought the help of a professional counselor. In the end "Tips for Adults" section, it very briefly mentions support groups and health care providers, but it isn't mentioned in the story. I will definitely remember this very impressive resource!

  • Jillian Heise
    2019-04-26 13:11

    While I appreciate that there is a book like this that exists to share with kids who may have a parent who is incarcerated, the writing itself was fairly didactic. Also, as much as I applaud the diversity represented in the children throughout the whole book, I noticed that out of all of them, there was only one white child with a parent in jail, and that child didn't show up until fairly far into the book.

  • Mary
    2019-04-28 07:08

    Excellent for use with children who have an incarcerated loved one. The book includes small vignettes of several such characters. They express their confusion, grief, anger, and other emotions in a genuine way. Those who need a vocabulary to describe their experience will benefit from this honest look at being a member of a family divided by incarceration. May also be used to help children empathize with others who are in this situation.

  • Joanna
    2019-05-09 14:28

    It is difficult to write a picture book about incarceration. Many have tried, most have failed, but this one succeeds. The text isn't heavy or didactic. The illustrations are charming, helping to steer the book from being too heavy. A wide variety of feelings, situations, ethnic groups and family types are showcased.

  • Marissa Elera
    2019-05-03 14:26

    Children's books on tough topics to talk about are often stilted and low quality. This is a wonderful break from that unfortunate trend. Lovingly illustrated and respectfully written, this book does not mince words but still embraces the whole spectrum of emotions a child may feel when in this situation. Excellent.

  • Katelyn Reagan
    2019-04-27 07:30

    Children with parents in jail feel many emotions. Some do not like to talk about it because they are afraid of becoming outcasts and there are some who are ashamed or angry. Author Becky Birtha does a fantastic job at creating a story that describes what children with incarcerated parents go through on a daily basis.

  • mg
    2019-05-20 07:18

    A great book exploring the myriad emotions that children may have with an incarcerated parent. Very diverse cast of characters, including one little one with two mommies. Illustrations are lovely, too. End matter is helpful for adults looking to speak with young ones about a family member who has been incarcerated.

  • Diane
    2019-05-01 14:18

    "When your mom or dad goes to jail, you can have all kinds of feelings."A story to help kids deal with the feelings and situations they may encounter after a parent goes to jail. A definite need for my school library. Includes a bibliography and a note for adults on who to help kids in this situation.

  • Natalie Malone
    2019-05-15 11:28

    I love this book!!! It's a great tool to use when you have to explain to any child about jail or prison. I work with many children who have a family member in one of these sitituations and it's hard to explain. Most of the time they feel like it's their fault.

  • Mary
    2019-05-25 07:03

    So few books are written about kids who have parents who are incarcerated. This one can seem a bit preachy at times, but it does a good job covering a wide spread of humanity and the feelings that can go along with having a parent in jail or prison.

  • Elaine
    2019-05-13 10:16

    Necessary addition to elementary/children's collections. The topic of incarcerated parents is handled deftly with illustrations depicting diverse characters and range of emotions about their mom/dad being in jail or prison.

  • Barbara
    2019-04-29 09:15

    This book about having a parent in jail might be a good supplement to other books about the subject. While it covered many scenarios and feelings a child might have it never really gave guidelines or strategies for dealing with these feelings. For ages 4 - 9.

  • Alyssa Gudenburr
    2019-05-20 11:07

    Shows the range of situations and emotions children go through while a family member is incarcerated. Doesn't provide any solutions but would be helpful to discuss questions and feelings children have.

  • Cat
    2019-05-19 09:11

    This is such a wonderful picture book. I loved the diversity, the artwork, and the entire concept.

  • Aliza Werner
    2019-05-09 09:17

    This would make a great pair with Jackie Woodson's VISITING DAY.

  • Kim
    2019-04-30 11:17

    A boom every adult working with children in schools should read on such a sensitive issue.

  • Eme87
    2019-05-02 12:02

    Helping children through dealing with an incarcerated parent.

  • Meredith
    2019-05-27 12:03

    I used to work at a school where several kids had parents in jail. I wish we had had this book.

  • Pam
    2019-05-14 10:14

    A sensitive story about the various reactions and emotions children have when a parent is in jail.

  • Julie
    2019-04-30 09:27

    What a great resource to have on hand.

  • Nikki
    2019-05-18 11:17

    This is a book with a "special message", but of the types of books that have a "special message" it is superior.

  • Mary Librarian
    2019-05-05 12:17

    A book to help kids deal with a parent in prison.

  • Emily
    2019-05-14 13:06

    Simple text that discusses the different feelings when a parent is in jail. Good for Gr. K-5

  • Maeve
    2019-05-25 07:12

    It was nice to have a diverse representation, but the majority of people in the book who were incarcerated were minorities. Subtle message, but powerful.