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Carol Anderson grows up in a fundamentalist Christian home in the '60s, a time when being gay was in opposition to all social and religious mores and against the law in most states. Fearing the rejection of her parents, she hides the truth about her love orientation, creating emotional distance from them for years, as she desperately struggles to harness her powerful attraCarol Anderson grows up in a fundamentalist Christian home in the '60s, a time when being gay was in opposition to all social and religious mores and against the law in most states. Fearing the rejection of her parents, she hides the truth about her love orientation, creating emotional distance from them for years, as she desperately struggles to harness her powerful attractions to women while pursuing false efforts to be with men. The watershed point in Carol's journey comes when she returns to graduate school and discovers the feminist movement, which emboldens her sense of personal power and the freedom to love whom she chooses. But this sense of self-possession comes too late for honesty with her father. His unexpected death before she can tell him the truth brings the full cost of Carol's secret crashing in--compelling her to come out to her mother before it is too late. Candid and poignant, You Can't Buy Love Like That reveals the complex invisible dynamics that arise for gay people who are forced to hide their true selves in order to survive--and celebrates the hard-won rewards of finding one's courageous heart and achieving self-acceptance and self-love....

Title : You Can't Buy Love Like That: Growing Up Gay in the Sixties
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ISBN : 9781631523144
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Number of Pages : 569 Pages
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You Can't Buy Love Like That: Growing Up Gay in the Sixties Reviews

  • Kathy
    2018-12-15 02:03

    Coming of age in the '60s was difficult enough without realizing that you are a lesbian in a fundamental Christian home. Fearing the rejection of her parents and societal reproach, Carol hides her feelings for another woman and becomes engaged to a man. Carol is close to her father and regrets not telling him her truth before he dies. Not only is this a story of love and denial, it is a history lesson and reflective look back. The stress and deceit of denying her relationships to those close to her carried a high price. Carol falls in love with a married woman in an open marriage and is honest about the emotional toll when that relationship ends. #magicofmemoir @BookSparks Reviewed at http://pennyformythoughts-nona.blogsp...

  • Cheryl
    2018-11-24 04:14

    Author, Carol Anderson provides me a nice in depth look into what it was like growing up gay in the sixties. I can only imagine how hard it must have been for not only Carol and other women but men as well. It is not like today's society where people are more open and there is not much of a shock factor. In fact, if you turned on your television or even movies; you would find a greater percentage of gay characters. One of my favorite was on Glee played by Chris Colfer aka Kurt Hummel. What I enjoyed the most about this book is that it was just Carol being open and honest. There was no politics or preference to accept the gay community. Although, I do have to say that reading about Carol's experiences trying to fit into society, I thought she handled it well. I am glad that she and her mother were able to connect after she shared her sexual orientation. For anyone needing that extra push or looking for a good read, you should check this book out.

  • Cy
    2018-11-17 00:28

    a really well-written and thoughtful memoir. also a powerful depiction of compulsory heterosexuality, and the fear and social expectation that can lead a lesbian into a heterosexual relationship. some aspects of the lesbian experience are universal amongst us, and i found myself relating to many feelings the author expressed--even now, decades later, in 2018.also, i had never heard cris williamson's "sweet woman," but i looked it up on spotify after it was mentioned in one chapter, and it's such a good song~~

  • Debi Lantzer
    2018-11-20 02:10

    I am a gay woman in this era, but I came out "B.E." - before Ellen - when it still had a horrible stigma. I lost custody of my son in a divorce and people deemed me crazy. I get it, I really do, but to share my struggle doesn't make me unique. It was great to read Ms. Anderson's story and I could definitely identify with her story.Thank you so much!

  • Mark-Tami Hotta
    2018-11-21 05:28

    Carol is currently serving as my “life coach” and is truly amazing. She brings curiosity, insight, and an insane ability to synthesize. Her book, “You can’t buy love like that” provides a glimpse of the challenges she faced and fears she overcame, regardless of what biases others had. Her relentless pursuit of understanding and being who she genuinely is, is a true inspiration and makes her the wonderful, caring, and capable person she is today. A must-read for anyone.

  • Reader Views
    2018-12-08 22:28

    Reviewed by Paige Lovitt for Reader Views (10/17)“You Can’t Buy Love Like That: Growing Up Gay in the Sixties” is a memoir by Carol E. Anderson. It is a captivating story of her struggle with self-acceptance and her journey toward empowerment and self-love.Raised by Baptist parents in the sixties, Carol Anderson had a tough time accepting that she was gay. An innocent crush on a female friend left Carol sure that something was wrong with her. Fearing that she was damned, she tried to suppress these feelings by dating men. She even became engaged to a wonderful man, but found it difficult to develop feelings that went beyond affection for him. She slowly began to accept who she was when an attraction to a female college classmate went deeper than her attraction to this man.Because of the times, these feelings left her ashamed and secretive because homosexuality was still taboo. Her secret left her unable to fully allow herself to be close to others, especially her parents, because she feared their judgment and ultimate rejection. As Carol evolves, she spends a lot of time focusing on continuing her education and forwarding her career. As other intimate relationships come into her life, she starts moving forward by finally starting to accept herself. Things are changing during this time as well, the feminist movement is gaining ground and people are becoming more accepting of alternative lifestyles. Not everyone is accepting, but Carol is able to develop relationships with people who are. In time, she becomes empowered and no longer has to hide her true nature. I found myself totally engrossed as I read Carol’s story. I related much of what I learned from her experience to those of my friends who had difficulties emerging from their isolation because of the fear of rejection from others. It gave me a more rounded view of why they feared not being accepted. One friend waited until she was in her 50s to come out. Even then, her mother told her that she was damned. Things have changed a lot since the sixties and I believe that Carol played a positive role during that time, but society still has some moving forward to do.I highly recommend “You Can’t Buy Love Like That: Growing Up Gay in the Sixties” by Carol E. Anderson to people who are struggling with accepting their sexuality, and for those who want to gain a greater understanding of what they are experiencing. Plus, it is a beautiful memoir, well written, and a great book to read!

  • Lisa
    2018-12-12 22:31

    Disclaimer: I received an e-copy of this book on NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.This is an open and honest memoir about growing up and living as a gay person in the '60s. Having been raised in a religious household in a church that told her that being gay was wrong and a society where there was no other option presented but to be in a heterosexual marriage, Carol struggles with the attraction she feels for women and the lack of attraction she feels for men.Her journey is a long and hard one, hiding her feelings from friends, her family, her fiance, her employer, and co-workers. She experiences first love and heartbreak in college and after she starts teaching at a small school, she also finds the feminist movement that helps her grow bolder in her personal choices. Despite this, she still lives a Double Life, engaged to a man she doesn't love, even though he is the best man she's ever known and lying to her parents. When her father dies unexpectedly, she realizes that she would have loved to tell him. Now, she will never get to experience him supporting her. This book is a quite long memoir and we follow Carol from her teenage years to her late adult life. It was fascinating for me to see how in some aspects the feminist movement of that time emboldened women to go out and live their life to the fullest, even if they still had to fear societal rejection for that. I personally can't imagine how hard it would be to grow up in a society where you have no role models and your feelings are not even talked about in any way. I imagine it must be very hard to figure that out then and you can see Carol's struggles with that.I think this was a very beautiful memoir, I enjoyed the writing style and it was a great read.

  • Elizabeth Taylor
    2018-12-05 21:31

    I have savored every minute reading this book. Carol's gift for balancing the raw, pragmatic aspects of daily life [eating sandwiches with her mother at Big Boy restaurant], while enthralling the reader in the more subtle nuances of a young woman's drive and search for living out the greater, deeper parts of her inner self, was so inspiring. Regardless of whether the truth you aim to claim is your sexuality or any other facet of self, there are universal lessons to be learned from Carol. The way she recounts again and again how she learned to notice and follow her emotions, or her body, or her mind gave me clues for how to do so in my own life. The way she learned to hone in and listen to inner self in the most challenging of situations that changed her life's path, gave great validation and affirmation to follow those signals within myself. I LOVE LOVE this book and can see it being a text I will return to over the years in giving me courage to live my own truths.

  • Julie Myers
    2018-11-25 01:21

    You Can't Buy Love Like That: Growing Up Gay in the Sixties is a phenomenal read. Carol's openness and willingness to be vulnerable in sharing her story was gentle, yet powerful. Her story will touch hearts, especially for those of us who have felt that same struggle. It takes courage and strength to stand up for what is inside of you and Carol certainly did that exquisitely. I couldn't put the book down.

  • Monical
    2018-11-25 02:06

    Wow, a lot of familiar scenes in this memoir, especially with the Michigan locales. I wish Anderson had come full circle to the current day, though, as the book ends before she has really accepted herself and after several disastrous relationships.

  • Samantha
    2018-12-09 00:23

    I received a copy of this book through the Goodreads giveaway program. I enjoyed this book. I thought it was good, but I just wish there had been something more. More depth about the years she lived through, more emotions. I, for some reason, felt like something was missing. I'm just not quite sure what.