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The Going and Goodbye is an examination of loss and leaving and the search for meaning in the memories that remain. Tracing a path through rural Ohio, the American south and small towns of Mexico, these stories breathe life into a marriage and its dissolution; find a voice that fears mortality then faces it; explore faith in the face of these losses; and ultimately revealThe Going and Goodbye is an examination of loss and leaving and the search for meaning in the memories that remain. Tracing a path through rural Ohio, the American south and small towns of Mexico, these stories breathe life into a marriage and its dissolution; find a voice that fears mortality then faces it; explore faith in the face of these losses; and ultimately reveal the power of love and letting go.“In this luminous memoir Shuly Cawood dives into the deepest of waters—health and illness, the bonds of family, intimacy and its unraveling—and emerges with a treasure. The writing is beautiful, both spare and lush, and the wisdom to be discovered there is genuine and hard won. The Going and Goodbye is a revelation.”~ Matthew Goodman, New York Times bestselling author...

Title : The Going and Goodbye: A Memoir
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ISBN : 9780993532191
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Number of Pages : 192 Pages
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The Going and Goodbye: A Memoir Reviews

  • Pam Van Dyk Writes
    2019-03-21 02:07

    Like a story, love has an arc of maturity. To love, to lose, and to love again is one of life's journeys and it requires us to peel back our protective layers, to be brave, to make ourselves vulnerable. Cawood's memoir, THE GOING AND GOODBYE shows us how this is done. When reading her essays, we are forced to examine our own relationships, past and present, in an effort to not only connect with those we love or have loved, but, in a deeper way, connect with ourselves. There were moments as I read her memoir when I found myself holding my breath. For example, when reading the chapter titled, "Stray," I felt as if the air had been sucked from the room. It is the mark of a great writer, that ability to actually control a reader's breath. Cawood is sympathetic to our need for release from this hold, and she offers it in a "horrifying five seconds-count them, they are long..." And the air rushes back in and we are, once again, breathing. THE GOING AND GOODBYE is a beautiful debut memoir from a writer I hope we hear from again soon.

  • Courtney LeBlanc
    2019-03-04 09:05

    I absolutely loved this book - I read it in one day! If you like poetry, read this book for it is poetic and lyrical. If you've ever experience love and loss, hope and heartbreak, grief and pain and pushing through to find something else on the other side, then READ THIS BOOK. A moving and eloquent memoir about love, divorce, happiness, loneliness, and the lies we convince ourselves of. Without a doubt Cawood is an author I will look for in the future.

  • Melissa
    2019-03-25 05:12

    Shuly's lyrical prose pulls the reader into the story and doesn't let go. As a reader I followed her on her search for finding what it means to love and be loved. Her vivid imagery keeps the reader firmly grounded in time and place throughout the journey.

  • Deb
    2019-03-13 06:06

    A beautiful memoir of love, loss, and moving on carrying all the memories of the past journey. The writing style is so fluid.. The prologue took me in and I ended up reading it again after I finished the story. This passage from the prologue summed up this memoir beautifully:"The ride threw us up, up, and down, down and our bucket spun so fast we slid into each other, smashed skin to skin and the fair and everything we could see blurred and washed together in an uneasy glimpse, again, again and neither one of us laughed as the pace quickened, as we spun so fast everything I had ever eaten tossed in mu gut, round and round we went until the sky was in our laps and our bodies felt as if we could not press harder against the bucket's edges, and up we tossed and down we came and up again....."Thank you for sharing your ride.

  • Robert
    2019-03-17 08:17

    I'm friends with the author, but honestly, this is one of the best books I've read this year. And if you don't believe me, I'm willing to have a fist fight over my objective opinion. I've never married or divorced, but I've broken-up and gone contra dancing. While someone once said that one person's pain echoes another, this was a fun read. I read it on a plane to the West Coast, and I read it on the way back to the East. Then, after jet-lag, I read it at home and finished last night after midnight. What's great about this memoir is that it's both descriptive and spare, and I get the sense that everyone is carrying on after I close the book; it's always nice to think about where people are and what they're doing when the book is done....

  • Chris Wolak
    2019-03-09 10:01

    Shuly Cawood is the life-long friend of my friend, Emily, which is how I came to read this book.Part of me approached the reading with trepidation. If you’ve never read a book by a friend or the friend of a friend, it can be a bit dicey. What if the book puts you to sleep or is an absolute trainwreck? What do you say to your friend when they asked how you liked it, particularly if you want to have an authentic relationship with that friend? I repeat: DI-CEY.Any fears I had were quickly put to rest on page one. Cawood’s memoir is about her relationship with, well, relationships. Her relationships with past boyfriends, her ex-husband, her new husband, her dogs, and — ultimately and, really, always — herself. She explores not just who she loves, but how she loves. She comes to understand that her system of love was broken.Read the rest of this review on my blog:

  • Carla Sameth
    2019-03-20 05:02

    I just finished The Going and Goodbye. It is lovely, delicious, dreamy and rich, grabs your heart and interest and doesn’t let you go until you finish. With a little bit of a letdown, because it’s over. But her readers will be comforted in knowing that there will be more from this talented writer. Cawood's roots as poet are evident in the quality and texture of the prose: writing that is self-assured, at times serene, others troubled and always stirring. Bravo! A stellar first book and a memoir that keeps you reflecting about the questions she raises long after you finish.

  • Jane Taylor
    2019-03-13 02:15

    Couldn't put it downI picked this book up this evening thinking I would read 1 or at the most 2 chapters before bed. I just finished it. Shuly Cawood shares deep parts of herself, and relays her experiences in a way that causes me to recall similar experiences of my own. Her descriptive style of writing drew me into the places and situations she describes as if I were there. Most of all, Shuly is courageous in allowing her vulnerability to be seen in this book. This would be an excellent book for young women who might be soul-searching to read. Thank you Shuly Cawood!

  • Erika Wood-Heidemann
    2019-02-24 02:48

    Memoir is tricky. I'm always impressed when the author can pull it off. Shuly Cawood has managed to weave a very compelling story out of her life experiences thus far, in an articulate, honest, relatable, and yet profound way. She takes every day occurrences and life-changing events/decisions both, and navigates through them on the page in a way that is so fresh and yet familiar and extremely comforting. Her abilities with description really shine. The level of depth and sensitivity connected me to her story immediately and kept me reading. I felt a connection, that, in the end, makes ME feel better about my own life. She's done a superb job writing about what we are all afflicted with: the human condition. A more than satisfying read!

  • Carly
    2019-02-24 09:04

    I went into this book expecting it to be something it was not, at least not entirely. But that is not a criticism, just a fact of the matter. I started this book expecting it to be more of a salve than it was meant to be; I wanted to be healed and told how to handle loss and grief. But this book is a memoir, not a manual or a bandage, and so that was my mistake. Some of Cawood's experiences recounted in these pages were nearly impossible for me to relate to. They felt closed off, not through any fault of hers, but because I read this book expecting it to show me myself, when I don't think it was meant to in the first place.All that being said, Cawood's writing is vivid and beautiful and clear. There is a vulnerability in these pages. A love that, even though I couldn't totally understand it, or know exactly how it felt, I could lie down in it and feel safer, even in this stranger's words. In one of my favorite sections, Cawood writes that, "words are the ladder I climb, the rungs to which I hold. If I keep on writing, the words might also become a net, the kind that catches falling things." I don't know if she means for this net to hold her or her readers, or both, but it held me. A large portion of this book felt like falling. I couldn't grasp many of the experiences, but eventually I found the passages that resonated, and I clung to them, and they caught me. I am very grateful to Shuly Cawood for that. I don't read much nonfiction, but I am glad I read this book, even if I went into the experience with the wrong outlook. This book took me somewhere I didn't expect, and though I fought it for a while, I am happy and better now on the other side of it.

  • Erika
    2019-03-14 06:05

    This book is the best in language, memory, wisdom, feeling, and beauty. A stunning narrative of love, loss, and growth -- so hard to put down! Look for future titles by this author and devour every one.

  • Scott Walden
    2019-03-06 08:57

    This is an excellent book, with beautiful writing that takes your heart on a journey, with plenty of highs and lows but there is much for all of us to learn...about love and life, heartbreak and death, losing your way and ultimately finding it.

  • Preston McKee
    2019-03-02 06:06

    A beautiful piece of writing.

  • Mjbratton
    2019-03-23 04:17

    MesmerizingI could not put this book down. The writer has a marvelous way of describing her personal journey. Looking forward to reading more from her in the future.

  • Tina Neyer
    2019-03-12 06:59

    The Going and Goodbye captivated my attention from start to finish. Someone close to me is in crisis over a relationship and after reading this book, I immediately got the book to this person, knowing that the author's insights could be very helpful to my friend. Shuly Cawood captures the power and devastation of modern-day relationships in a lyrical and passionate way.

  • Mark Trollinger
    2019-03-08 09:59

    The book is amazing and I highly recommend it. Shuly has a mastery of words that draws the reader in and gives an endearing, descriptive rendering of the scene that made me feel as though I were right there watching it unfold before me. I am not one that visualizes well when reading but she painted a picture of her wins and losses, her passions and doubts, her journey into new adventures and retreat to the familiarity of home in a way that not only allowed me to vividly see her experiences, but caused me to reflect on my own relationships and life roller coaster. Her words allowed me to feel things for people I have never met. She and I grew up in the same town and although I knew her, I didn’t really “know” her. I knew her as well as someone from a small town and school where everyone knows everyone’s name and moves in similar circles without actually doing things together can. Part of my attraction to the book was the familiarity that allowed me to connect with a person I knew, but also the unfamiliarity that allowed me to learn the adventures of someone I didn’t. Her writing style allowed me to not only see the aspects of her life I was unfamiliar with, but to see things that I was familiar with, like our hometown, in a way that I often overlooked or took for granted growing up. Her descriptions brought to life everyday things – objects, situations, relationships, etc. that I often don’t notice in my casual stumbling through my daily routine. I was eager to return to the book frequently and see what happened next, as if awaiting a letter in the mailbox from a long-time friend. While I have started and stopped reading many books, this one returned a feeling of enjoyment in reading that I have not experienced in years.