Employing a method of discipline used for children, this Zen guide encourages parents to look inwardly and reflect on their motivations in order to respond to their child's needs from a clearer, kinder perspective. It contains meditative exercises for stressed or disgruntled parents and provides accounts of parent/child interactions. In each one, the self-aware parent descEmploying a method of discipline used for children, this Zen guide encourages parents to look inwardly and reflect on their motivations in order to respond to their child's needs from a clearer, kinder perspective. It contains meditative exercises for stressed or disgruntled parents and provides accounts of parent/child interactions. In each one, the self-aware parent describes how they would have reacted before learning to take time-out to discover their own motivations. Then each parent tells how he or she responded to the situation from a clearer, kinder viewpoint....
|Title||:||Time-Out for Parents: A Guide to Compassionate Parenting|
|Number of Pages||:||168 Pages|
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Time-Out for Parents: A Guide to Compassionate Parenting Reviews
Written by Zen meditation teachers, this book’s message is both profound and astonishingly simple. It challenges parents to rethink the use of ‘time-out’.Many of us may associate ‘time-out’ with Supernanny’s ‘naughty step’, although it’s been around a lot longer than her TV show! The authors explain how they frequently encounter adult meditation students who feel ‘bad’ when asked to sit quietly by themselves to meditate because of the negative associations with their childhood time-out experiences.The authors suggest that instead of using time-out as a behaviour management technique, when our children’s behaviour displeases us, we take a time-out to work out what is going on for us. Attention is shifted away from the child’s outward behaviour and towards the parent’s inner process.For example, if your child’s ‘whining’ makes you feel cross, step back and consider what is contributing to your reaction. Maybe you learned as a child that it is ‘bad’ to cry or ask for things. Maybe you are just tired and cranky after work. Sometimes, it’s our understanding of a situation that needs to change rather than our children’s behaviour. This doesn’t mean that you can’t have boundaries. It means re-evaluating the reasons behind our gut responses, and understanding and accepting our children’s feelings as well as our own. The key to compassionate parenting is taking care of our own emotional needs in order that we can take care of our children’s.The book includes some brief family case studies, which it uses to provides examples of parental time-out and compassionate parenting in practice. It is a very short book (I read it in an hour) with a strong message.
Incredibly simple and powerful. I'm not a parent -- I read this book because I was considering giving it to a friend who's about to become a mom -- yet everything in it resonated with me. Gave me a lot of insight about how I was conditioned as a child, how that has caused a lot of suffering, and how I can now parent myself and any children I may have in the future.
Very helpful to me. I'm considering doing a re-parenting of myself and this was extremely informative and logical and how to go about such a thing.
A very good book to remind us how not to "lose it" as parents with a touch of self-awareness. A must-read for all parents.