Beyond Good Intentions is a book of essays about the joys and risks of raising children adopted internationally. Cheri Register examines ten pitfalls that well-meaning parents like herself can easily slip into: -- Wiping Away Our Children's Past -- Hovering Over Our Troubled Children -- Holding the Lid on Sorrow and Anger -- Parenting on the Defensive -- Believing Race DoeBeyond Good Intentions is a book of essays about the joys and risks of raising children adopted internationally. Cheri Register examines ten pitfalls that well-meaning parents like herself can easily slip into: -- Wiping Away Our Children's Past -- Hovering Over Our Troubled Children -- Holding the Lid on Sorrow and Anger -- Parenting on the Defensive -- Believing Race Doesn't Matter -- Keeping Our Children Exotic -- Raising Our Children in Isolation -- Judging Our Country Superior -- Believing Adoption Saves Souls -- Appropriating Our Children's Heritage Each essay opens with an exaggerated version of something an adoptive parent might say, to prompt a fresh, intense look at practices so familiar they are seldom questioned, even though they may not serve the children's and the family's best interests. Register urges readers to bring their own experiences to bear in a candid conversation about internationally adoptive family life....
|Title||:||Beyond Good Intentions: A Mother Reflects on Raising Internationally Adopted Children|
|Number of Pages||:||183 Pages|
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Beyond Good Intentions: A Mother Reflects on Raising Internationally Adopted Children Reviews
Cheri Register has two adult children adopted from Korea in the 1980's. Her perspective therefore is heavily influenced by both her children and other adult adoptees.Each chapter is an essay on a topic important to international adoption. She starts by presenting a worst case scenario, and then discusses the theme or issues that it brings up. Examples include hovering too much and assuming that everything has to do with your child's adoption, learning to understand that your child is going to be angry sometimes and you can't take it personally, appreciating that race is going to be an issue in your child's life, and working to find a good balance between appreciating your child's culture and making her an exotic little doll.The last topic struck me because it was one I hadn't read in a lot of other books. Her daughters didn't always feel comfortable going to Korean cultural events, or rather, they didn't always feel comfortable going with her. She advocates making your own connections to your child's culture and giving them the option of exploring them on their own.
We adopted our daughter as an infant from Vietnam. She's now seven. I read this book as we waited for her and liked it then, but it was wonderful to go back and read it a few years later. A must read for parents adopting internationally.
Written by an adoptive mother, Beyond Good Intentions sensitively examines some of the practical and ethical questions regarding international adoption. This book is useful for illustrating this pro-adoption viewpoint and also offering many topics for further exploration and discussion.
A must read for anyone with internationally adopted children!!
A adoption perpective of a parent of 2 grown internationally adopted daughters
This is perhaps my favorite book about adoptive families. The author truly *reflected* before she wrote.... :)
This is the single most-helpful book we've read so far. Practical advice and experience on dealing with common issues in adoption.
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