Read On Becoming Pretoddlerwise: From Babyhood to Toddlerhood (Parenting Your 12 to 18 Month Old) by Gary Ezzo Robert Bucknam Online


The period between twelve and eighteen months places a child on a one-way bridge to the future. Infancy is a thing of the past and toddlerhood is straight ahead. A baby still? Not really, but neither is he a toddler and that is the key to understanding this phase of growth. This is a period of great of exchange: baby food is exchanged for table food; the highchair for boosThe period between twelve and eighteen months places a child on a one-way bridge to the future. Infancy is a thing of the past and toddlerhood is straight ahead. A baby still? Not really, but neither is he a toddler and that is the key to understanding this phase of growth. This is a period of great of exchange: baby food is exchanged for table food; the highchair for booster seat; finger feeding replaced with spoon; babbling sounds transition to speaking, the first unsteady steps are conquered by strides of confidence, and the list goes on. Moving forward at a lighting pace, pretoddlers are driven towards a new level of independence, equipped with a mind of their own. Whether a parent is ready or not, a toddler's natural inclination and challenge of 'I do myself' will become increasingly apparent, not to mention frustrating. The drive toward independence is very strong yet, unpredictable. He is always in motion and not easily restrained, directed or controlled, but he needs to be! Boundaries will be tested, rules understood as suggestions, and curiosity will become a force to reckon with. How will a parent meet the unfolding challenges? The answer begins with understanding the various growth transitions of the one-hundred and eighty days linking babyhood with toddlerhood....

Title : On Becoming Pretoddlerwise: From Babyhood to Toddlerhood (Parenting Your 12 to 18 Month Old)
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ISBN : 9781932740110
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Number of Pages : 176 Pages
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On Becoming Pretoddlerwise: From Babyhood to Toddlerhood (Parenting Your 12 to 18 Month Old) Reviews

  • Amy Formanski Duffy
    2019-05-19 13:33

    I sought out this book because I was feeling a little lost on dealing with my 14MO's new habit of throwing tantrums. The Babywise book helped me when I was trying to establish his infant sleep patterns. This one goes into toddler naptime and eating habits, and it is helpful to know that it's normal for them to transition from two naps to one and to only eat a few bites of food during this 12-18 month period. And it goes into discipline advice too. Basically they advise parents to be proactive with discipline, meaning start teaching good habits and boundaries now so that as the kids get older and understand more, they are already headed in the right direction behavior-wise. They don't understand right and wrong right now, but if you tell them "no" in a firm tone they will listen. These books sometimes make me feel like I'm doing everything wrong as a parent. According to this one I'm way overdue to get rid of binkie, bottle and to go on our first trip to the dentist. But I'm not a panicked newbie mom anymore, either. I know that we can go at our own pace with some things, and I can take the advice I find helpful and use it and disregard the rest. Parents can drive themselves nuts if they try to follow any baby book to the letter. But all of them have a few helpful tips if you're willing to scan through them. This series is a little bit old-school, in a good way. Example: They say that it's better to teach kids not to touch certain things and to respect other people's belongings instead of "baby-proofing" everything. Again, baby-proofing doesn't teach them anything for the future. You can't rearrange your entire house for these little nuggets. It's impossible, and I have learned that no matter how many things you try to keep out of their reach they will find something else that they're not supposed to play with. Better to teach them what's okay to touch and what's not.

  • Kamae
    2019-06-03 14:51

    After reading this book, (and Baby Wise), I tend to feel that there's something wrong with me or my baby because I can't get him on a specific schedule. I don't like feeling that way because I've come to learn how every baby is different and every parenting style is different. I guess I was looking more for suggestions and options of how to help my child rather than an absolute way of doing things. I am currently reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, and I'm loving it.

  • Philip Carroll
    2019-06-10 15:49

    Being a first time dad and a huge fan of the first book "Babywise," I found this book to be very enlightening on what to expect and how to handle the child at this age as well as goals to aim for. It's also a really easy read and not terribly long. I'm seeing some positive results from my child and am very much looking forward to the next book. This guy knows his stuff.

  • Lisa Wells
    2019-05-24 18:37

    Also obsessed with this series. I officially have a Babywise baby and I have never had to go into her room at night after 4 months. Even when shes sick, she sleeps. And its just great feeding/sleep/and now correction information. And solids and whatever else I am dealing with at the time.

  • Ariana
    2019-06-05 18:28

    Helpful, but badly needs copy editing.

  • Luke Gruber
    2019-05-28 13:44

    I appreciate Ezzo's take on parenting. I've read all the books up leading to this one (and plan on reading future books as well). If you're like me and like to know general timelines of progress for your baby, this series is helpful.

  • Amanda
    2019-06-13 19:38

    Just a sampling of offensive things in this book:(1) "Not every day will end up being the perfect day when Dad walks through the door. He may walk into a chaotic situation without knowing what has been going on earlier that day. He sees his toddler son pulling papers off his desk or maybe dinner is delayed tonight." Because of course it's mom's job to have dinner on the table when Dad walks through the door, even though she has spent all day caring for her child by herself, because...(2) "Pretoddlers and toddlers placed in organized preschool are often negatively impacted by the peer pressure associated with children from homes that do not share your values. . . . When you compare the temporary advantage [in educational outcomes] gained with the offset in emotional and social setbacks, you have to ask if outsourcing your child is best for his development."(3) "Discomfort tends to 'get attention' faster than anything. A squeeze on the hand, even a swat for wiggling on a changing table, when accompanied by verbal correction acts as a deterrent to wrong and health-threatening behaviors."Don't bother with this book. There are many other, much better, more modern books that cover discipline and routines for pretoddlers.

  • Abby
    2019-05-28 12:38

    I generally have a visceral reaction to the Ezzo books. They are not my favorite parenting books by a long shot. But I read this one during nap time as I have a rapidly approaching toddler and I feel a little rusty from my now two and a half year old. While they'll say things along the lines of finding the best fit for your family, I always feel exceptionally judged when I've read their books. I just don't worship at the Ezzo throne. I think most mothers feel insecure and struggle with guilt - these books seem to promote that guilt. I just hate fear-mongering, especially among parents. But, after that rant, I will say that there were lots of good tidbits in this book. It was a good refresher for my two year old and gave me some ideas of where to start with boundaries with my 11 month old. I don't really want to know them, I don't want to have them over to my house and I definitely don't want to be friends with the newly-reformed example mother who now beautifully has her child's day scheduled down to the half hour.

  • Ellie Sorota
    2019-05-31 15:38

    I didn't realize Babywise was a whole series. We read the first book when our daughter was born and I stumbled on the rest of the series while looking for help with transitions as she grew. I skipped over book 2, so I don't know if this contains a lot of repeated material or not, but I found it very helpful. The book is divided into sections regarding physical transitions: teething, eating, napping; and a few sections for the less tangible: discipline, structure, and moral training. A quick read, this book contains lots of practical suggestions that are easy to implement right away. We skipped baby signing and now that she's old enough to have a lot to communicate (18. mos.), I can see it would be really helpful. Blanket time is a genius practice, and the encouragement for discipline and correction was very helpful. I recommend this series over any other baby-littles "How To" for everyday practical tips. This book contained many grammatical errors. Future editions need to be edited more thoroughly.

  • Rhonda
    2019-06-07 16:46

    I wish I had read this one a little sooner than the 12 month mark than the subtitle states. This is not a book for everyone. It is not a book you can read and have all of the answers to all of the different scenarios that could happen with your child. And if it doesn't work for your parenting style, move on--you probably got something out of it. I will probably read Preparation for the Toddler Years, knowing there will be some overlap.I like the reminders of keeping us family centered, not child centered. There is some good advice on continuing independent play time, schedule and manners at the table. There are also some thoughts on how to begin discipline. I appreciated this since I do think my daughter is old enough to understands when I say know and what options I have to deal with it at this age.

  • Lindsay Malouf
    2019-05-23 18:45

    This had some good advice! I like the idea or "house proofing" your baby so they understand boundaries in anybody's home. I want to try to do "blanket time" Where you teach your child self-control and boundaries by having them stay on a blanket playing with a few toys. You start at 5 minutes and build up to 30. This would be wonderful for church! It has some good training strategies. I have been trying to get Lily to not throw her food all over the floor and this gave me some tips on how to help her learn not to do that. Hopefully it works. It also gives nice tips on transitioning from formula to milk, bottle to sippy cup, crib to bed, etc.

  • Summer
    2019-06-08 14:51

    I love this book! It's exactly where we are right now with our son, and it's so refreshing to hear from people who get it. I've read Babywise and Babywise II, so we've already laid the foundation for our son to follow the good habits in this book. So many people and authors have information on toddlers, but once the child turns 12 months, they're still a lot like babies. This book was an excellent reminder of where we are to be heading, to keep up the good work, and not lose ground on how far we've come. I'm almost tempted to read this again next month!

  • Angela
    2019-05-29 15:32

    I wish there was an option to give this book no stars, or negative stars. It made me so angry I almost threw it through a window. I groaned my way through its short yet thoroughly offensive "A few words for fathers" chapter ("be your wife's protector" etc) but the last straw was when the nutrition section mentioned sources of protein including "even tofu... yuck!" Awful, biased, and ignorant. Stay away.

  • Sarah
    2019-05-22 13:40

    This is a book that gives guidelines on how to raise a pre-toddler. I really gleaned a lot from it because this age is hard to figure out. From feeding to naps to learning and discipline, this book covers all the basics. It is also one that you take things and form it to your own family because every family is different. I would recommend anyone to read this if raising kids. It gives some great points and ideas.

  • Beth
    2019-06-04 20:23

    Very worthwhile. Read it before you think you need to, like around 9 months. Lots of stuff I wish I'd started earlier, even though I was going by the first two Babywise books. This book emphasizes the things that are important to be sticking with from the first two, which is good because I didn't feel like I could implement all the stuff the first two told me to do.

  • Claire
    2019-06-13 13:43

    1/3 helpful advice, 1/3 stating the obvious, and 1/3 useless platitudes.

  • Jennifer Slottje
    2019-05-28 14:41

    To be honest, not a ton of value in this one. Everything you really need to know is in the first book.

  • Ross Hodges
    2019-05-22 13:31

    Same thoughts, essentially, as the previous book in the series. Helpful at many points, but should not be taken as "gospel" on the subject. Take the meat, leave the bones.

  • Renae
    2019-05-29 13:25

    a quick read! Very informative and to the point!

  • Dawn
    2019-06-06 12:51

    While I felt like this book was geared to a stay at home mom, it had some good points. But I couldn't get past the poor editing: so many grammatical mistakes and misspellings- it drove me crazy!

  • Alison
    2019-05-30 18:36

    The book adds VERY LITTLE to the discussions in Babywise...a good book to get secondhand but not worth paying full price. It's more a review than new information.