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Title : On Becoming Baby Wise II: Parenting Your Pre-Toddler Five to Fifteen Months
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On Becoming Baby Wise II: Parenting Your Pre-Toddler Five to Fifteen Months Reviews

  • Liz
    2019-06-20 18:34

    Ezzo has good ideas, it's his "voice" that causes me to give this book a 2/3 star review. Not even his voice really, it's his lack of understanding. One of the first lessons anyone should learn about writing (this literally is one of the first things I teach my secondary grade English students) -- you need to KNOW your audience. Ezzo fails big time on that one.He writes to "attachment" parents . . . when he should realize NO attachment style parent will get through the first five pages of his book -- if they even pick it up. He writes to mother's who are "careless" in the way they shape their child's behavior. Well, a mother with the "live and learn" approach to life isn't going to use a parent-help book to learn. She uses life. Thus the "live and learn." I can't believe Ezzo is oblivious to this.His audience is a large group of educated women, and though he offers us great amounts of advice, he shouldn't hand it to us as if we are reckless and care free about child rearing. All in all, I like his ideas. I feel like I'm reading an old Psychology text when I pick this up at night. I feel like I'm back in college, studying for a Friday exam (not a hard one, though). I like that approach. I love the "psychology" behind training child behavior . . . but again, I was a Psych minor for my undergrad . . . I am his audience. Not the 5 High School Freshmen from my homeroom who all happen to get pregnant during that trying year of infertility for my husband and I.I'd suggest the Babywise series to any parent. I'd just remind them to take all advice (even the loving tidbits that come from Grandma) take it all with a grain of salt. Ezzo's routine saved my sanity and is the key reason my little one sleep 11 hours straight at night. But I have NEVER been close to following his time suggestions. Use the theories that work for you and your baby, and roll your eyes while skimming through the ones that just aren't for you.

  • Christina
    2019-06-22 13:49

    An excellent follow-up to Baby Wise that continues to reinforce the understanding that order and routine in your child's life play a critical role in their growth, development, and relationship to the world around them. A must read for PDF parents wondering what to do when their babies reach the age where discipline, mobility and advanced communication are integrated into their days.**HIGHLIGHTS**"When you rightly train the heart of a child, you lay down a solid foundation for the other disciplines of life.""Allowing a child unlimited freedom of exploration is developmentally unwise and unhealthy. Freedom is not the problem--the problem is the child's inability to handle the power of freedom.""Training correctly from the start eliminates the need for correcting wrong behavior later. Be patient with your child, but above all, be proactive in the training process; proper training won't just happen.""Discipline (as opposed to punishment) is a process of training and learning that fosters self-control and moral development.""Young children learn from concrete experience, not abstract parental reasoning, so we train by instruction and reinforce compliance with encouragement and correction."

  • Jc Brigid
    2019-06-09 17:26

    I was forced to read the original form of these books as a nanny. It's nothing more than the deluded belief that you can control your child's behaviour by controlling their schedule and everything else in their life. Some of the advice is to intentionally tempt your child to sin so that you can spank them to teach them a lesson. They chalk right up there with the Pearls in the crazy category.Their views also go against everything that God instilled in us as parents. Everything you naturally do as an instinctive parent, they tell you not to do. Babywearing is called primitive (with a few ethnic examples thrown in...of course, you would have to watch the tapes from one of their "leaders" to hear this). Co-sleeping is supposedly a detriment to marriage. Breastfeeding is discouraged after 6mos. Don't let your child learn to feed themselves, instead smack their hand and make them wait for you to give them each mouthful. This and more can be found in the classes and original version of this series. This version is simply a white washed version to make it more marketable.Do yourself a favour and skip these.

  • Wendy
    2019-05-30 19:24

    I'm really surprised that I even wanted to read this book. I read the first Baby Wise book, and initially was pretty appalled. Well, a month or so later, we ran into sleep problems and I decided that maybe Ezzo's sleep training isn't so horrendous after all. It's definitely not for everyone, and I don't think I could have stuck to a set schedule since I ran into milk supply issues and truly needed to feed on demand in order to keep my supply up.Anyways, about this book... it was alright. It was very focused on the theoretical and provided few, if any, examples of Ezzo's philosophy. I was impressed by the section on highchair manners, but thought that some of the consequences were a little harsh. It did mention that the discipline methods were for pre-toddlers aged ten months or older and perhaps I'll feel that they are more appropriate when my infant is ten months old. Still, I can't imagine isolating my baby in her crib at such a young age because she disobeyed me. It seems a little much for a ten month old.This book reminded me of how much my little one can take in at such a young age. I have always talked to her and explained what we were doing, but I decided that I can start using this dialog to teach her right from wrong. Thanks to this book, I am also trying to practice praising her often so that it will come more naturally to me as she gets older. Ezzo can be a bit out there and, in my opinion, extreme but he does make some good points.

  • Laura
    2019-05-27 19:42

    Even better than Baby Wise I! Gary Ezzo echos many parenting philosophies that my mother instilled in me. Consistency, obedience, and the importance of parental authority are all themes throughout this volume in the Wise series. My only complaint/caution is this statement from Ezzo: "The job of the parent is to transform the heart from what it is to what it should be." In general, I believe Ezzo's parenting advice is consistent with scriptural principles. Children are foolish and need to be guided by their wiser, more experienced parents. However, a parent cannot change a child's heart. Only God can change the heart. The job of a christian parent is to correct a child in love and constantly point that child to Christ for He can change their heart.

  • Christina
    2019-06-17 15:49

    I wish I would have read this 6 months ago! Simple, practical advice on how to teach a pre-toddler to have good, moral behavior. Even though my baby can't speak, I learned that he understands A LOT. This helped me set higher expectations for him, and I'm seeing now that he is rising to the expectations I have for him. No manipulation, no power struggles, no spanking. I highly recommend it. Quick read -- read it in a day -- and I'm a slow reader!

  • Sally Baumann
    2019-06-21 17:48

    Can't say enough about the Babywise series. I read the first Babywise book before Richard was born, and it provided the framework for me the first six months. Loved Babywise II just as much, since we are entering the phase of establishing boundaries and watching Richard explore his world, i.e. objects in our house.

  • Chelsea L
    2019-06-04 16:25

    This baby wise book was just "meh" compared to the first book in the series. I didn't find it nearly as helpful. It strays into generic parenting advice with the line "begin as you mean to go" repeated over and over. I personally feel that parenting is a learning experience for the parent as well, and it is constant adjustment and change. This line doesn't fit within the larger picture of what parenting is in my mind. There was a helpful area about sign language with pictures included, and I did find the section about introducing solids helpful. Unfortunately, the advice about food allergies is now outdated by new recommendations. Overall, I found the first book to be very helpful, but this one was underwhelming.

  • Becky
    2019-06-15 17:36

    Meh, it was fine. I agreed with some concepts and disagreed with others, but of course in the end we'll see what actually works for us, etc. ;p

  • Liesel
    2019-06-11 21:46

    So many parents just love Baby Wise books. I guess that is because they have babies/toddlers for whom this method is suited for. But, not all babies respond well to this method. There are lots of different personalities and types of little ones. I like the premise of not putting more on yourself, when you child can start (and I say start) to be a tad more independent. The first book has much better tips, although, I don't necessarily agree with the methods. These tips only work IF you have a baby with a certain temperament.If you do have a child this works for and you think you are the most awesome parent on the earth, don't look down on those for whom this just doesn't work. It doesn't mean the other people don't know what they are doing. Although you may indeed be a great parent, I have decided after 3 kids it is a good 80% the type of baby you get. Just one example: for heaven's sake don't throw your little one in a high chair and leave them there for 90 MINUTES! Why, because they don't want their bananas? Then be really excited if you are able to finally force them to eat more fruit- yea you win! Is this really something you want to throw down the gauntlet over? Is this really a health, safety or even bothersome issue? Not in my book. I believe should be some choice even for little ones, especially as they start wanting more independence. Let them have a little in cases where it is acceptable. If you give a little one a healthy range of options they actually will eat enough to be just fine, although it might not be the one thing you are set on at that moment or at the exact time you want them to eat it. Those poor poor babies these parents try that type of stuff with. Believe me, my high needs baby, did not respond well AT ALL to this method. I wasn't even as harsh as this book recommends. It lead to more frustration and tears for both of us. I wished in retrospect I had never read this book because it certainly lead me down the wrong path for us. I was just so exhausted, disappointed, and even angry that motherhood was so miserable. My baby was not sleeping, crying a lot of the time, and at the latter part of this age started becoming more aggressive than average to me and other children. Did I mention the part about being exhausted? So, I was desperate to try anything that might help. If anything, this made it lots worse. This oldest baby is now 10 and I have now discovered she has some inborn psychological issues, that perhaps were even manifesting as a "risk factor" for it. With what she personally has, this is the absolute worst thing you could do. I have two other children, who do not have this issue. I never went full-bore again in this method, but for my second child some of the general premises of the first book helped. But, with the third child, totally useless again.

  • Tara
    2019-06-09 18:26

    I would consider us to be a "Babywise family", having used the foundations of Babywise to guide my son into a routine, so I turned to Babywise II when we hit a 4 month sleep regression, started trying to figure out solids, etc. I did not find Babywise II half as helpful as Babywise. Not only is it a smaller book, most of the information is a repeat from Babywise, and the additional information…was not helpful or enlightening to me. The solids guidance seemed very canned, like it was produced by a baby food manufacturer: start Baby with rice cereal, after so many days, introduce stage 1 size jar of vegetables, serve these foods from this size jar at these meals. I was hoping to get more thorough information about the benefits and detriments of starting at 4, 5, 6, 9, 12, etc. months, the feeding cereal vs vegetables debate, and how starting solids would impact the rest of my son's feeding and sleeping routine (which is what Babywise said Babywise II would do!) At the very least I was hoping for encouraging commentary, something along the lines of: it's quite normal for your PDF baby to start waking up again at night and napping poorly at such and such a time and phase…try doing this or this or this.

  • Tammy Bolt-Werthem
    2019-06-13 20:23

    I learned that babies, and children need schedule and predictability. It is important to establish this in the first year, so that when they are in the toddler stage, they are not surprised by new things, like bedtime, going to sleep without a bottle, etc. Also, it teaches about naps and feeding routines and what to encourage baby to do. I liked the book and found it both helpful and intimidating at the same time. I don't want to be a rigid mom, as i know is my nature, i want to be nurturing and create healthy and helpful boundaries for my children. This book is a great tool in helping you learn how to be both. Also, it stresses the importance of marriage first and modeling a healthy rel. to your kids. If your marriage is healthy, your children will reap many benefits. What i liked most is that it shows how not to be a child-centered parent. If any of you have been around these kids, they tend to be narcissitic and selfish. I want my child to feel special and know he is important, but not the center of my universe. I would recommend this book as a tool, but don't be too hard on yourself.

  • Rhonda
    2019-05-30 21:21

    I loved looking at the reviews for this book. This is not a book for everyone. It is not a book you can read and have all of the answers to all of the different scenarios that could happen with your child.As with Babywise,as you read it there is the sense that this is the only way to parent and if you don't do it this way you are in for trouble/bad/etc. You have to use your brain and use what works for you then move on. I can't believe how worked up people get about this.I like the reminders of keeping us family centered, not child centered. There is some good advice on how to begin solids and high chair manners. I also appreciated the thoughts on beginning "discipline" (more like structure or self control) and independent play time. I look forward to trying these out with my 6 month old daughter. Babywise has been a success so far and I would imagine the guideline set out here are useful too.

  • Erika
    2019-06-20 16:47

    This was a really helpful book. I am a first time mom and my son is just entering the pre-toddler stage. This book taught me how to give my son a good moral foundation and how to be a proactive parent and not a reactive one. Topics it focuses on:-Maintaining balance in your life and prioritizing your marriage-Explanation of moral foundation-Mealtime activities - introducing solids-Highchair manners - how to correct inappropriate behaviors immediately -Waketime activities - the need for structured alone playtime, family time, and free time play-Discipline - principles of instruction-Nap and Sleeptime activities - mom controls when naptime begins and ends, not the childI thought this was a good follow-up to the first book. I am sure like most books, it sounds easier than it actually is to do. I do think it is a great guide which will help me as I learn to parent my pre-toddler.

  • Tawny
    2019-05-25 15:26

    I like the advice of "begin as you mean to go." It's a little stricter, more defined approach than I've used with my older kids. But I can see that setting boundaries early are a good thing. It's investing early and benefiting from the work later on.I have used playpen time that the author suggests with Max since I now have two playpens. I love playpen time for when I'm getting the older kids breakfast and for when I'm making dinner. He rolls around in there and plays happily with his toys. I wish I had done this with the other kids. He uses one to sleeps in and one that we have near the kitchen that he plays in.I like this practical approach to parents-in-charge parenting, and plan on reading the rest of the parenting books by this author.

  • Heather
    2019-06-11 15:26

    Take any "parenting" book with a grain of salt. That said, Baby Wise 1 helped my newborn sleep thru the night at 7 weeks with no encouragement. Baby Wise 2 takes a sensible approach to introducing solids and helping your baby learn about their nefw world. It's got plenty of common sense, and is very "middle ground" as far as parenting goes; it's neither one extreme or the other. It's considerably less condescending than the first, which is refreshing, but has added religious touches that I didn't really need.

  • Kristen
    2019-06-08 15:22

    Garbage.The only useful chapter was on Highchair manners.The authors tell parents to teach once, not reteach later. While this is a useful concept, and one I'd like to employ, they give almost no real life examples.Their notion of parent directed feeding schedule is out-dated. No one currently recommends restricting a baby's feedings to just 4 times per day: 7am, 11am, 3pm, and 7pm. The idea is cruel.Just avoid the book. It's not even worth the quick skim I gave it.

  • Julie
    2019-06-24 15:45

    I suck; this is the kind of crap I read these days. The authors of this series of books have some pretty conservative and rigid parenting philosophies, but we applied the approaches from the first book with fairly consistent and permanent success. I think there's a good strategy on teaching discipline here, but I skipped over the passages I don't like.

  • Sue
    2019-05-29 14:47

    This book is DANGEROUS!

  • Leslie Estep
    2019-06-07 13:20

    Baby Wise II is a short read that helps parents know what to expect in their child's pre-toddler development. The book covers introducing solid food, nap time, play time, discipline, and more. Since the book is concise and to the point, it does have an opinionated tone and can easily be interpreted as being the only right way. As with any book or advice, this book should be read with an open mind and critically thought through.

  • Kari
    2019-06-22 17:39

    I wasn't entirely satisfied with the amount of feeding schedule information. It left me looking up more information on the internet! However, I love the Christian approach he uses in the book and it still provides over all great advise. I would like for this book to be revised/stocked with more info!

  • Yalın
    2019-05-25 17:21

    From Fields & Brown, "Baby 411":"The first edition of On Becoming Babywise was so contrary to mainstream pediatric practice that the American Academy of Pediatrics issued a rare alert about this book...The idea of leaving a newborn to cry out and settle on his own for 15-20 minutes is anathema to most pediatricians."

  • Allie Salas
    2019-06-18 15:41

    This book really helped me have confidence as a parent. I learned what I could expect, what to look at for, and how to know what the needs are.

  • Elisabeth Gross
    2019-06-07 17:35

    Book 2 in the series was a helpful parenting guide, explaining what to do at each stage of development and handle commonly asked questions.

  • Lisa Wells
    2019-06-19 17:46

    Act as you mean to go.....all the next steps of introducing your baby to your world as you want it.

  • Michele
    2019-06-20 16:21

    As much as I liked the first book, On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep this one fell short for me. It really shouldn't be it's own book, and I almost feel like the used price I paid (a couple of bucks, shipped) was a rip-off. Why not just append it to the first book, since it's really more of a pamphlet, any way?Despite the typos, overtly christian themes, and repeated tips, there were a few nuggets between the covers of On Becoming Baby Wise II: Parenting Your Pre-Toddler Five to Fifteen Months. "Begin as you mean to go" is Ezzo's big tip, meaning that you should start correcting "wrong behavior" the minute it starts instead of waiting until the child is older. Even if your infant can't understand why she can't throw her bowl off the table, she shouldn't be allowed to do so.The reason I picked up the book to begin with is because Frances has taken up the habit of yelling loudly during dinner time. If I'm not feeding her fast enough, we're treated to a very long and loud vocalization. We're going to take the advice from the book and not feed her another bite until she's quiet. And if she doesn't comply, we'll remove her from the situation and try again later. It's worth a shot!Since I've been getting into baby sign language, I was especially sensitive to Ezzo's suggestion that you only introduce one sign at a time. Other material I've read says to use as many signs as you can. I mean, research shows you shouldn't limit the number of spoken words said to your infant, so why limit the number of signs?I also don't necessarily agree with the suggestions for introducing solids. Ezzo is still in the "cereals first" camp, while we think it's best to start with vegetables, fruit and meat. We already combine different vegetables together, and often feed Frances whatever we're having for dinner, like Indian food or spicy Mexican. Also, I feed Frances solid food first and follow up with breast milk. I figure she might not even notice when we wean if she's used to filling up on solids first. Basically, I'd skip this book. I've heard On Becoming Toddlerwise is worth picking up, which I'll do at some point.

  • Summer
    2019-06-15 15:25

    I love this book! It's short, easy to follow, and immediately applicable. It says it's for parents of "pretoddlers" 5-15 months, but they have another book called On Becoming Pretoddler Wise for 12-18 month olds. This book seemed geared more toward 5-12 months, which is perfect for us (our little boy is 7 months old). We read and are using Babywise I, and he has followed most of the structure quite nicely. I love both the books because I agree with their philosophies, and they have worked well for us. These books are not for everyone, but even so, they're well worth the read.This book reviews babywise basics for parents who didn't read the first one or if it's been a while. I think this book is a lot easier to apply if 1) you've already implemented babywise strategies from book one, and 2) if you have the same mindset as the authors which focuses on parent-directed feeding and training your child rather than re-training later.The book mostly focuses on how to lay a good foundation/structure/guidelines for your baby regarding meal time, play time, and sleep time. The authors continue to remind parents that children are able to absorb a lot more than we give them credit for, and it's never too soon to start teaching them behavioral expectations. It may sound harsh to (lovingly) correct a 7 month old who blows raspberries at dinner, but it's better than getting carrots in the face when they know better. They also talk a lot about age-appropriate correction, sign language, teaching babies to play independently, setting boundaries, pacifiers, thumb sucking, and comfort objects (stuffed animals or blankets). The whole idea is to lay a great foundation (which requires a lot of work on the front end) to make things easier for both parents and (independent!) children in the long run. Though I know it means my baby is growing up, I'm looking forward to applying what I've learned!

  • Julie
    2019-06-20 13:48

    Obviously, this guy is coming from a quite religious perspective, so his advice is a bit over the top. I appreciated his sentiment that we as parents have an obligation to raise responsible kids, and found the author's thoughts on developing a child's self control enlightening. His theory on 'parenting inside the funnel' makes sense as well. However, Mr. Ezzo's frequent mention of morals/moral behavior/moral learning/ moral conformity makes it clear that he is trying to send a specific message.I would say to read this book with a grain of salt - unless you are very religious. Then I would only hope you check his credentials (what is his M.A. degree in, for example) before putting suggestions such as "Don't fear the use of restraint or the light to moderate squeeze or even a mild attention-getting swat to the hand for touching the lamp plug" or "It's a fact - discomfort gets any human's attention faster than anything else. Applying moderate discomfort as a method of correction is reserved for the older, more mobile pretoddler whose hands are touching things they shouldn't be." I'd like Mr.Ezzo to define the word "moderate" as well - he uses it often regarding discipline. I would imagine some parents who were physically abused as children have a different take on what is moderate discomfort or a moderate squeeze.Overall, this is a negative approach to raising a young child. One may want to throw in praise and love after implementing these pages and pages of discipline techniques and "heart training". Hmph.

  • Robin
    2019-05-27 16:29

    This was more like 3.5 stars to me. I don't think it is as good as the first book. I love the Baby Wise concepts that are outlined in book one; that baby's needs should not supplant the marriage relationship; that baby's needs can be worked into the entire family's schedule rather than the family revolving entirely around baby; and parent directed feeding, as opposed to demand feeding, fosters good sleeping and behavior patterns. I've implemented these principles with my last two babies and they both started sleeping through the night by ten weeks of age. They were also happier and easier to manage during their waking hours. People have always been amazed at how "easy" my little ones have been.So while I love the Baby Wise method in general, and would recommend it to anyone, I think this particular book is a little lacking. It teaches great principles for parenting your pretoddler, but it doesn't offer many examples of how to practically implement those principles. It tells us the what to do and why to do it, but not really how to do it. I understand any examples they might have given may not reflect my actual life experiences, but I really think those exmples help solidify my understanding of the priciples.Still, it was a quick read and taught some really great parenting principles. It's definately worth picking up if you have a baby.

  • Melissa
    2019-06-10 18:21

    Blunt read. They spare no concerns of parents emotions or trials, they just tell it how they see it and expect you to believe everything they say. I enjoyed the book and found pieces to be resourceful. I plan to implement several of their "suggestions" (if you can call them that--more like demands or essential-parenting skills).However, I didn't give it 5 stars because it's written a little stubbornly and one-sided. There are always exceptions to the rule and although I think this book would work for 9 out of 10 kids they make it sound like if it doesn't work for your child, you're a bad parents. No exceptions for delays, children with challenges, etc--never even mentioned. It's their way or you're not doing it right and are therefore a bad parent. I was annoyed by that snobbish attitude. They also referred to their original book like the bible--if you haven't read it and implemented every piece of it into your child's life than you are NOT a good parent. With all that said, I'd recommend this book to parents. It's short and to the point--less than 120 pages. I think most of their basic principles and ideas are good, worth while ideas and would work well for children.