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Welcome back to chez Bertinelli, where life is as crazy and comical as ever. Valerie gets even more personal about her inner worries: her maternal anxieties about her son, Wolfie (he's fallen in love and, as she writes, "getting your sex talk from Eddie Van Halen wasn't recommended in any of the parenting books I read"); her mother's own new diet adventure; and a craving fWelcome back to chez Bertinelli, where life is as crazy and comical as ever. Valerie gets even more personal about her inner worries: her maternal anxieties about her son, Wolfie (he's fallen in love and, as she writes, "getting your sex talk from Eddie Van Halen wasn't recommended in any of the parenting books I read"); her mother's own new diet adventure; and a craving for a deeper relationship with a Higher Power. And as if these everyday challenges weren't enough, Valerie is working to maintain her own very public weight loss. She even gets to thinking she might kick it up a notch, shed more weight and get so buff she can wear a bikini -- in public.In Finding It, Valerie comes face-to-face with hard questions of family, faith, and beachwear, and realizes that she's hungering for another transformation -- to become better, not just thinner. Forget the scale; the real change is happening inside, and Valerie realizes that this is the part of dieting that no one ever talks about -- the reality of keeping the pounds off. Dieting fixes one problem, she discovers, but to maintain that weight loss, she has to work on everything else -- all the reasons she got fat in the first place. Warm and friendly, honest and self-aware -- like a talk with your BFF -- Finding It tells of the common worries and frustrations, the funny and fabulous moments in Valerie's publicly private life.With the same winning wit and candor that touched several generations of fans in Losing It, Finding It is an optimistic story for trying times. It's about believing in love and happiness, having faith that both are possible, and finding out that God does want you to enjoy life's desserts -- even when you're on a diet....

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Finding It Reviews

  • Vilo
    2019-01-21 09:16

    You've all heard that you should not go to the grocery store on an empty stomach. Well, for me stopping by the library to pick up a book for Dave after a 10-hour work day is equivalent. I ended up with about 5 books for me all grabbed from various display shelves on the way to the reserved books rack. This one was a surprisingly satisfying read (no pun intended). Valerie Bertinelli is down to earth, honest, and funny. She wrote an earlier book about losing weight. This one is about "maintenance," which is the harder of the two, according to her. Bertinelli discusses how she had to change a lot more than her eating and exercising habits to truly satisfy her hungers. She shares a lot of discoveries about relationships, motivation and families.

  • Richard Collins
    2019-01-20 16:16

    Can a TV and movie personality married to a rock star and living in Beverly Hills lead a wholesome life?Well, yes. At least in Valerie Bertinelli's case.Her second and logically titled auto-biographical book, Finding It, follows an inspirational and successful first book, Losing It. Both books tell of her Jenny Craig affiliation. In Losing It she sheds 40 pounds; In Finding It she fights the demons who threaten to thwart her efforts at maintaining her hard-won weight loss.I bought Finding It assuming it would be full of trite but juicy, tabloid style anecdotes usually found in celebrity memoir. I also thought it would be fun to catch up on Bertinelli's life since One Day at a Time.I was very much surprised and delighted to find, as I got into the book, it was all about healthy living and family. Bertinelli gives readers a ringside seat as she diets and exercises her way from 172 pounds to 122 pounds so she can fulfill a deal to pose in a bikini for the cover of People Magazine.Readers will feel every drop of sweat on her treadmill and every disappointing rejection of delicious food as she determinedly fights her way to 132 pounds. Then you'll huff and puff along with Bertinelli and her trainer Christopher as they work their way from runs of a few hundred yards to a 5K in order to lose the last ten pounds.You have to feel good about someone who, at age 49, can lose 50 pounds and look great in a bikini on the cover of a national magazine.A year after Finding It was published Bertinelli finished the Boston Marathon, a 26 mile, 385 yard feat. That same year she started a new TV series Hot in Cleveland. The year after that she threw out the opening day first pitch for the Cleveland Indians.With a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, a house in Malibu and a net worth of $20 million you might think Bertinelli would be a conceited gas bag. She's not. Bertinelli generously shares the Finding It spotlight with rock band super star and ex-husband Ed Van Halen, their 18 year-old son Wolfgang (Wolfie), her soon-to-be husband Tom and her mom and dad.One drawback: Bertinelli depends a little too much on narrative for my taste. I think dialogue is a lot more fun to read. But her prose is straightforward and lively.

  • Gato
    2019-02-13 15:36

    To be fair, I tried; honestly, I tried to read this book with the same fervor and joy I employed while reading her first book. However, this book was downright awful. It surprised me that Val, who admits to being uneducated, blathers on and on about politics. I absolutely believe that everyone is entitled to a political opinion, but I thought this was a book on maintaining weight, not bashing the president. That irritation aside, I also felt like I was reading something written by a 9 year old. I kept asking myself, "who wrote the first book?" because her "voice" in this book seems quite different and she appears, despite attaining a killer figure, to have regressed in a strange and nerve-grating way. Very disappointing read.

  • Barbara
    2019-02-06 13:38

    I enjoyed this book even more than I did her first autobiography. Valerie comes across as normal and human, struggling with the same issues so many of us who repeatedly battle the bulge have.Kids growing up, parents aging, personal insecurities are things we all deal with. Working to achieve a goal, only to question whether we deserve the praise / results / good that comes is something that many of us deal with.In short, there are echoes in the mind, and they make me feel connected. I thank her for her honesty, and wish her well in her future endeavors... as I'm sure she wishes all of us!

  • Erin Martin
    2019-02-06 12:45

    Ok I love Valerie Bertinelli. But for crying out, I really could have done without her talking on and on about her political views. That was NOT why I wanted to read this book. I DON'T CARE! And her comparisons to the government and her weight loss were so far-fetched that you could just tell she was only doing it to get her political agenda out there. It was SO annoying. She did have some good points and I learned some valuable things from her. But if I wanted to know who she voted for and why, I would have bought a book about THAT. With that said, she wrote this in 2009. I am curious to see how she feels about politics now. :)

  • Cyndi
    2019-01-29 09:18

    Valerie Bertinelli is the quintessential girl-next-door & America's Sweetheart. This second book is about her struggle to keep her weight off as well as juggling marriage, motherhood, aging parents & just getting older in general. Towards the end of the book she went into a lot of details about how she got in shape for a bikini shoot for Jenny Craig. I skimmed through most of that which is why I only gave it 3 stars. I still don't understand why she let her 16-year-old son go on tour with his dad.

  • JoAnn Jordan
    2019-01-20 12:23

    This is a very good book about Valerie's adventures in maintaining her weight and living her life more fully. She overcomes obstacles and comes to a better understanding of what her life means. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has struggled with weight or simply with the difficulties of daily life.

  • Gayle
    2019-02-02 11:28

    I just started listening to the audio narrated by the author. Her playful tone sucked me right in.I liked it but it's a good thing we have so much in common such as age, motherhood and politics.It was a decent non-fiction listen but I highly DO NOT recommend it if you have a lot of weight to lose or are Republican. I'll leave it there.

  • .tiffany Melz
    2019-02-07 16:39

    Seriously if I wanted to read a political rant then I would've bought a different book!!!

  • Patti
    2019-02-09 11:19

    Not as good as "Losing It".

  • Heidi
    2019-01-22 15:31

    I loved it and I got some good ideas from her. I enjoyed this book as much as her first.

  • Tanya
    2019-02-08 11:33

    I enjoyed this book more than the first one she wrote because of Valerie Bertinelli's wit and willingness to reveal her story and struggle with weight maintenance so others can learn from it or at least not feel alone. She actually leaves me with much food for thought about weight maintenance. She writes like a girlfriend sharing her thoughts with you while you head out for a walk together. Here are several quotes that I liked from the book because the really force me to think about my own difficulties with weight maintenance.p 96-97 "I think my diet worked because of the additional work I did on myself. I needed time to think, cry, talk, sweat, celebrate and constantly replenish the faith I needed every day to stay focused and strong. Many of the women I dealt with talked about time as if it were the enemy, which it can be if you get to the end and wish you had more time, or wish you had used it more wisely. but one of the biggest yet most subtle changes I noticed after I began maintenance was in my attitude about time. Time is no longer my enemy. I cherish it more, try to use it wisely, and try to share it with the sense that I am giving away something very valuable. Somehow God has figured this out for us...I used to sneer at all the experts who advised living in the moment. Then I came to realize that a moment is about all I can handle -or want to handle. The past and the future as concepts are way too big to grasp. But within the span of a moment I can usually mange cravings, exercise, doubts, worries, arguments, guilt, a sputtering self-image, and a crisis of faith. p 108 search for God had been so frustrating. I'd wanted a tangible, show-me type of spiritual moment that would let me get it...I was just glad to be on the path that would take me closer to God...I sensed it was an important part of maintenance-and it is.p 127 I was most disturbed by how easily feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt got back in my head, and also how quickly I had returned to bad habits. It was the definition of my old bugaboos, unconscious behavior, and emotional eating. It was also a wake-up that progress--in my case, maintenance--happens in fits and starts. I wasn't going to be perfect every day...I calmed down and began to think in terms of a more manageable time frame than forever. A-ha! So that's what was meant by living in the moment. I could handle a moment; forever was too much.p 141-2 My brief set back had been more than a warning sign about my eating habits. It had also reminded me that I needed to continue dealing with a lifetime of insecurity and self-doubt, feelings that I was "less than' and undeserving of all the fortunate things that had happened to me...I was at a crossroads that many women know but few talk about; after working up the courage to make a profound life change, then mustering the faith and determination to accomplish it, I had to decide whether I believed that I deserved this slimmer, smarter, healthier version of myself, especially in the wake of slips and setbacks. p 143 People can get by on a lot less than they think; but they need hope. Experience had taught me that hope comes from doing hard work, facing hard truths, correcting past mistakes, making your own breaks, taking risks, daring yourself to grow, and seeing the progress. p 183-4 Like it or not, all of us are going to reach the end someday. It's non-negotiable. But we do have a choice about how we live. We can either wait for the end in a gloomy funk, carping and complaining, blaming and bitching; or we can approach each day as if it's an opportunity to feel good and do better, and to be more patient, forgiving, and helpful. I also liked some of her "notes to myself" which really felt like a peek into her personal diary. p 30 - Today my mind and body are in conflict about going to the gym, but I'm telling them to get on the same page! How? I'm thinking of all the times I've wished I'd worked out but couldn't. And the times I've wished I'd felt good about myself but didn't. Now that I have the time to get fort-five minutes such a big deal? p 52 Think of the feeling you have after a great workout. Now compare it to the feeling you have after an unhealthy eating streak, with little to no physical activity. now re-think going to the gym, the bag of chips, or whatever your devil seems to be today. The choice become a little easier, right? p 64 What if losing weight meant getting rid of the "weight" we carry on our shoulders and inside? p 81 Here's a logical progression: be accountable for the food you eat, be accountable for the words you speak, be accountable for the life you live. p 101 One more thing to remember. Change comes from the inside. It's often the last thing you're going to see when you look in the mirror. So be patient. p 123 Rule of thumb: stop over-thinking and just get on with what's right.p 157 I've been thinking about food more than I should through some stressful times, and I have to remind myself that food is food. Don't give it any more power than it has, and don't give it any power that I have myself. p 178 I alone am responsible for my actions. Therefor I have to remember to make them actions that are beneficial to me--and the rest of the world. p 185 I have to remind myself that exercise is not the enemy even if it makes me smell bad. In fact, B.O. is the smell of progress.p 260 Keep your eye on the goal. But you won't find it looking down at teh scale. You have to look inside your heart, look up for inspiration, and look out at the rest of your life.

  • SueAnn
    2019-02-01 10:23

    I enjoyed listening to this book and learning about Valerie's life. With the exception of her love of Barack Obama. Her references to him and how he influenced her life were annoying.

  • Wendy
    2019-02-12 16:22

    Losing It was the story about growing up, getting married, getting fat, getting divorced, and finally, getting the weight off, with Jenny Craig's help. There's a good deal of growing self-awareness in that book, some of the self-discovery that's expected in any "how I lost the weight" story; one of the tools of losing the weight is identifying how and why you put it on in the first place, what your triggers and bad habits are, what attitudes you've developed about food and life and self that need to change. This book is all about what happens after you lose the weight, and you enter the phase known as "maintenance" (also known as "the rest of your life"), and how that's different from the losing part. It's not as simple as "hang on to the new habits, let go of the old habits, and keep working out". There's more mental, emotional, and spiritual work involved, or at least there was for Valerie. I've never been there, myself, so I can't comment. This book is also about Val's voyage back into swimwear: specifically, a bikini, which she wore in yet another Jenny Craig commercial. It's about the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual effort that went into shedding another ten pounds and getting into the best shape of her life in order to wear that bikini in front of millions of people on television. The descriptions of her workouts with her trainer, her efforts to raise her basal metabolic rate from 1300 calories to 3500 calories per day, to make her a more efficient burner of calories, kind of exhausted me. Fair enough to want to weigh in at a feathery 122 for a bikini-clad commercial shoot, but part of me - the not-very-evolved part, probably - wondered whether that level of commitment, of activity, of discipline, is something that I could maintain after I'd achieved the goal of having my picture taken wearing the bikini. I didn't really think so, so it's a good thing that wearing a bikini isn't on my list of weight loss goals. The most interesting part of this story, for me, was Valerie's spiritual reflections: her feeling that she was missing something in comparison to her boyfriend's connection with God, and the little moments where she felt something that she later realized might be what she'd thought she was missing, including the last one mentioned, which she experiences while walking on a treadmill facing out over the blue ocean, waves lapping at the shore. ...I just didn't figure it out until now, in the gym, when I realized that special connection to God that I had always thought resided in a church wasn't there. it was inside me. Going to church helps some people find it. But there are other ways, too. The point is to find it, and then believe it. When I was in St. Patrick's, it was as if God had been trying to say, "I'm glad you like the architecture. But look around, here and outside and most importantly inside yourself. I'm everywhere."Valerie's spiritual journey feels personal without being overly specific or at all prescriptive, and that makes it inspiring rather than intimidating. Which is a nice echo of the weight loss journey story from the first book.

  • Marsha
    2019-01-20 15:39

    Valerie is quite normal for a celebrity and in this book she shows just how normal she is by exposing her insecurities, her temper when she gets upset or frustrated, her disbelief in “how lucky” she has been with her career, and her struggle to keep weight off and in good shape, despite her past struggles to use food to comfort her when she was upset. As a Jenny Craig spokeswoman, she was asked to model in a bikini and Valerie writes about her exercise training and dieting to meet this goal.Probably the oddest thing Valerie did in her entire life was marrying rock star Eddie Van Halen. Her relationship with Eddie Van Halen is discussed in further detail in her first book, "Losing It." In this present book she sounds even more at peace with her divorce and she writes about her present relationship with live-in boyfriend Tom. She also writes about her son Wolfgang who travels on the road playing music with his dad. She writes about her son’s first serious relationship and how it makes her feel to watch her son grow up. Valerie is very much into family and she writes about her relationship with her mother and at one point her mother was very ill and Valerie thought she might lose her.Other than having more money in the bank than most of us, and being able to go backstage at Eddie Van Halen concerts whenever she wants to see her son, and having less lack of privacy, Valerie seems like an average Joe. Maybe even more than average. She seems like she has a good heart and could be the type of girlfriend one could hang out with any Saturday night to shoot the breeze and who knows, maybe even play a game of Scrabble.

  • Laura
    2019-01-22 11:41

    I liked this one much more than the first one (Losing It). I'm not sure why....maybe because this one didn't read like a "Behind the Music" for Van Halen! This one was all aroung more interesting to me; less like a biography and more sharing of her everyday experiences and struggles. Honestly, I'm not sure why I ever picked up Losing It in the first place. I was too young to be a fan of One Day at a Time, and I only had a vague idea of who Valerie was to begin with. After reading this one, however, I feel like I connected with her and that she is definitely someone I would want to be friends with. I can identify with her issues as a mother, a wife, her weight, struggle to find faith, etc. The only thing that really annoyed me was all the references to Obama and the change that was coming. No offense to the Pres...I just found it excessive and slightly cheesy.

  • Erika
    2019-01-30 08:37

    Here's the thing. I got this book at the dollar store! Why do some books end up at the dollar store? In the case of this book, the easy answer is the frequent English grammar problems. But why did this book have so many technical problems? Thats a harder question, and I don't have the answer. What I do know, is that I really liked it anyway. I liked it enough, that when my three request books from the library came in, I finished this one first, even though the countdown clock had started on my library books. I really like Valerie's story and style and voice, and I found her book mildly thought-provoking. It was more spiritual and political than I would have guessed. At moments Valerie was awfully, painfully, out-of-touch with mainstream America. Mostly, she was really relatable, so I forgave her!

  • Debra Oehlberg
    2019-02-04 13:28

    I can identify with Valerie Bertinelli in so many ways. We are close in age, and struggle with weight gain. But, unlike Valerie, my accumulated weight came after several health problems that went undiagnosed for years, and simple exercise alone does not make my pounds fall off quickly. I'm also like her in the fact that I really enjoy good food, and want my eating experience to be worth it. But, unlike her, I am not an emotional eater. And, finally, I know the fear of a bikini. But with me, it's not my butt (which is my better feature), but my gut. This book has given me the incentive to see if I can try to slowly start walking and running. Highly recommend it for someone who likes inspirational stories, wants to lose weight, or is a fan of Valerie Bertinelli.

  • Cherri
    2019-01-20 14:39

    Valerie was miserable being 40 pounds overweight and losing the weight didn't just change her body, it changed her demeanor, her self-esteem and her outlook on life. I guess, if I were a TV actress, I'd be obsessed with my body too. Luckily, I'm not. I just finished this audio book today. It was good, but not great. Valerie's philosophy and advice about weight loss are not universal. Not everyone is miserable with themselves because of being overweight and not everyone who loses has all their problems worked out as a result. She has some good thoughts about maintenance, where I'll be in a couple of years. If you're a fan of Valerie, you'll enjoy the book. She's a fun, pleasant, mostly positive person.

  • Katie Christian
    2019-01-22 10:25

    While I did find this book entertaining for the most part, every once in a while she would just go off on such an odd tangent that it's hard to 'get' at times. She was basically mocking her boyfriend's religion until she decided to have some faith herself. I have a theory that it's something chemical in some people's brains that makes them relate everything to food. I don't believe she was doing it for the book, I think she actually have a different brain process than I do when thinking about food. BUT, as I said originally, I did find the book entertaining and I think Valerie Bertinelli is very funny and I hope to see more of her on TV in the near future!

  • Tim Chavel
    2019-01-22 11:38

    I have been a fan of Valerie Bertinelli since I was a kid watching "One Day at A Time." In this follow up book from "Losing It," Valerie tells how she not only kept the weight off but how she lost even more. This book is more then losing weight and maintaining weight lost, but it is more about her life. I found it very interesting that she seems to be seeking a relationship with the Savior. She mentions several times how she knows there is a higher power and sometimes prays. I know I will continue to ask the Lord to work in her life that she may indeed come to know Him in a very personal way. If you are a fan you will enjoy this book!

  • Wendy Dawn
    2019-02-13 09:20

    Not a huge fan of Bertinelli, but have developed more respect with the reading of this book. I recently experienced a huge weight loss and wanted to read her take on life "maintaining." Realistic and down to earth as you would expect from Bertinelli. She essentially reaches the commonality in many of us who struggle with maintaining more than weightloss, but life. Humorous and poignant. Worth a read, especially for middle-aged women who are realizing the longer we live, the less we know, but the more we want to learn.

  • Tricia Andrews
    2019-02-15 11:30

    I didn't like this audiobook as much as her first book (Losing It). This is the follow up on how she has managed to keep the weight off while being a Jenny Craig spokesperson and her new marriage. There isn't as much depth and history in this book. It seems like it was thrown together as a followup but it only covers a few years of her life. She talks alot about her son in this book with lots of personal details of his life. Just what every teenage wants his mom to do. I do like that she read this book again. I like hearing someone's story in their voice.

  • Shayna
    2019-01-29 14:21

    A fun, honest, quick read... Not as great as the first book, but I love Valerie! One problem I found with this book is, if it's that hard for her to get down to a certain weight and maintain it... that's pretty discouraging to the rest of us ~ who are without personal trainers, marathon & bikini goals and Jenny Craig help... But good for her.. she did it and looks Fabulous... although she has always been adorable :)

  • Patti
    2019-02-03 12:25

    I loved this follow up to Losing It - a very encouraging read about the difficulties with losing weight and maintaining it. Valerie Bertinelli shares her personal stuggles with finding the reasons behind her eating habits and how to handle her food addictions through new techniques. Very motivational for anyone wanting to lose weight ... and keep it off!

  • Tisha
    2019-01-19 15:17

    Maintenance. After Valerie loses 40 pounds she wants to keep it off. This is her struggle to keep the weight off. Its has some valid points but the thing I keep coming back to is that she gets her hair done "every 12 days". I am not sure why this bothers me since I have my roots done too, usually every 10 weeks. Glad I read the book though.

  • Tara D-K
    2019-02-11 16:38

    I love VB! I think she's a little wacky, but who isn't? She's honest, as usual, in this book. I got a little worried with the God/spirituality stuff, but she doesn't push it, it's just her thoughts on finding some kind of spirituality. I found it touching and interesting. I love that she just bears all her soul, warts and all.

  • Dawn
    2019-01-25 14:33

    A good read, but I liked her first book (Losing It) better. Valerie shows that losing weight is just not enough to make you happy. You have to be happy in all aspects of your life to be truly happy with yourself. Her take on losing weight and being happy has encouraged me in my weight loss journey that I started in March.

  • Maria Potts-tussing
    2019-01-31 15:34

    Ok so this one was good. Inspirational!! I was hooked and excited and couldn't wait to read more. Then...she admits to having a personal about a let down. I struggled to finish the last few chapters from the disapointment.

  • JM Randolph
    2019-01-18 09:38

    I like Valerie Bertinelli's story, and this book found me at the right time. She says some important things about maintaining positive change in your life that I needed to hear right now. I also like her honesty.