Okay, so he's not perfect, but does your man have potential? This book has the answers to the question: does your man have Prince Charming potential? Learn how to bring out the best of what he's got?or not!Women want men to change, but men want women to stay the same. If you've ever wondered how much "potential" a guy has, this book will help you discover whether he's a diOkay, so he's not perfect, but does your man have potential? This book has the answers to the question: does your man have Prince Charming potential? Learn how to bring out the best of what he's got?or not!Women want men to change, but men want women to stay the same. If you've ever wondered how much "potential" a guy has, this book will help you discover whether he's a diamond in the rough or just a lump of coal. You'll learn why women endure the frustration of trying to transform a sub-par boyfriend into the man of their dreams and why men can be disappointed when women change as they turn into wives and mothers. With the information and tactics in this book, you'll find out how to overcome that disconnect and learn to assess whether a man really does have the potential to change or whether it's time to move on in order to find that truly special someone you deserve.Tells you what you need to know to determine whether a man is worth all of the time and effortShows how to tell if a man is a Cheapskate, Know-It-All, Liar, Couch Potato, ADD Guy, Wannabe Artist, or all of the aboveExplains the biological and social reasons that women assess men for the potential they might have in the future while men assess women as they are nowWritten by Dr. Belisa Vranich, a clinical psychologist and advice columnist for the the Huffington Post, and Ariane Marder, former sex and relationships editor at Men?s Fitness and, currently, the executive editor at Voyage.tvFilled with surprising, down-to-earth information your mother and your friends could never tell you, He's Got Potential is the relationship survival guide every woman should read....
|Title||:||He's Got Potential: A Field Guide to Shy Guys, Bad Boys, Intellectuals, Cheaters, and Everything in Between|
|Number of Pages||:||240 Pages|
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He's Got Potential: A Field Guide to Shy Guys, Bad Boys, Intellectuals, Cheaters, and Everything in Between Reviews
This book is mostly about what women want to change about men, why they don't change, and the kinds of men who might change. I don't really think you can change people. Even if he loves you, there's a lot more to it than that. This book even made me ask myself if there is anything I'd change for a man. Maybe a few small things...
I was recommended this book by a friend. I didn't know much about the book before starting it so I thought it would be close to what the title says "He's Got Potential" but I guess I read it wrong.In my point of view, the title is a total misnomer. "He's Got Potential: a field guide to shy guys, bad boys, intellectuals, cheaters, and everything in between." I thought it was about finding the good stuff and potential boyfriends on the types of guys that girls usually turn down. Heck, I find myself turning down lots of guys that like me, so I thought maybe something is wrong with me, that I'm not seeing more, and this book could help me see the "boyfriend potential" in those wrong types.But that's not what this book is about at ALL.Instead, it's about women who stick with boyfriends that are no good for them because the woman sees "potential" and tries to change the guy. I agree with the book - people for the most part, cannot be changed. However, even in this advice, I felt like the book was very negative. Dr. Vranich (the author) spent devoted a large part of this book about how to see the end in a relationship and how to leave, but she didn't spend so much time talking about learning to COPE with these "rough" patches in guys, and how to be OKAY with it.So basically, she wrote the book for ONE TYPE of WOMAN - the ones who sticks around, gets annoyed at something, tries to change the guy and doesn't work out, and then she keeps on asking herself if she wants to leave. In this case, the book is helpful. She makes the woman ask herself many questions about how she came to this realization, whether to leave or not leave, and how to leave with dignity. For the unsure woman who's trying to "buff a rough patch" on her boyfriend, this book helps. But for all the other women out there that are trying to get help with approaching a guy so he doesn't see you as a "Nag" "mother type" "evil witch" etc etc.... the author does not offer any type of a solution. So she tells you how it WON'T work out but doesn't give ways how it CAN work out. It's focused on the negative, the leaving, splitting up, and forgetting about a guy, but not on Acceptance. There is no mention of how to use this "rough patch" in a positive. How to talk without becoming a witch. It's almost like the author says "all hope is lost, get out now."In many cases, that might be the truth. But if so, she should have titled the book "get out now, how to give up on relationships you've tried to change" instead of "he's got potential."I liked her anecdotes, stories of other people and what they went through, past situations. I did not like how these examples left you asking "what happened next." I like that she made you ask a lot of questions about the relationship, the person, and what YOU want, but I don't like how she was so close to telling you the right thing to do, but stopped right before it. For example "here are all the ways this can go..." Many thoughts were totally left unfinished. Interrupted, or just not fulfilled. Like sections were missing and not picked up later in the book. For example, she gave you a quiz, and you had to write answers, but didn't tell you what those answers mean. I don't know if this is a case of bad writing or the author's intention to leave it up to the reader what to do, but it just felt wrong.All in all the book is pretty negative, raises a lot of questions but doesn't give a lot of answers, and the title is a terrible misnomer. If you are a women deciding whether or not you should leave a relationship after you're tried unsuccessfully to change a guy, then this book is for you. For everyone else, it's a waste of time, with funny anecdotes.
The fact that she thinks all men will marry pretty much whomever because they have no standards should tell you everything you need to know about why you probably ought not bother with this one. No, dear Dr. Vranich. You're conflating "men" with "desperates" and "dumbasses." (And she doesn't cite her sources when she makes sweepingly misandrist and misogynist statements like these, either. Instead of science, we get rom-com reductionism.)
This is another one which I worked on, but I recommend it to all my single girlfriends. It is a smartly written book, which gets to the heart of why women want men to change and why men want women to stay the same.
Wasn't the best book. Seemed like it was based on one perspective of life. Not relatable.