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From First Steps to Potty Training There is no greater fulfillment a parent can receive than the upturned face of a toddler, eyes speaking wonders and a face of confidence in discovering a brand n...

Title : On Becoming Toddler Wise
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ISBN : 9780971453227
Format Type : Paperback
Number of Pages : 172 Pages
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On Becoming Toddler Wise Reviews

  • Karli
    2019-01-20 02:17

    I often don't just love everything in a parenting book (I've read several, especially before we had Noah, but I kind of like to glean a little from each one and tend to take a pretty balanced view - meaning I don't believe in magic formulas that work 100% of the time for everybody because every parent and child is so different.) But I really like this book... I liked it even more than Babywise for some reason (which doesn't totally make sense because it's the same heart value). At the Bible School, one of the things we focus on with our first year students is what we call "The Power of a Focused Life" - which at its heart is about managing time and disciplining your life that you would not squander your destiny in Christ. The students fill out Personal Goals - related to overall life vision and then also focus on more specific goals such as finances, relationships, rest, ministry, vocation, prayer and study, etc, etc. Once they have done that, they create a schedule that sets them on a course toward achieving those goals. One of the biggest revelations for our students just in scheduling their time like this is how much time they are actually wasting... doing things aimlessly and losing hours - precious hours that add up to years lost over the course of a lifetime.The heart of this book reminded me of the heart of above. It's the Power of Focused Life for Toddlers... and I LOVED it! Much of it was something we already do in part, but it gave even more clarity and direction to the heart of what we were feeling/doing. I wished it had more practical tips and strategies becuase I bought into the philosophy right away (didn't need three more chapters to explain it for me)... but overall, I'm glad I have this book.

  • Karen
    2019-01-22 04:14

    This was an incredibly fast read, I read it in two sittings. Maybe because I skipped most of the chapter on potty training, since I'm not ready to tackle that with the kiddo yet. General takeaway I got from this:- a schedule / routine is helpful- be intentional with your time with your child (guide them and try to teach them, don't just let them wander around)- focus more on redirection and restriction than punishment at this stage- use your word choice carefully; don't bog the kid down with long explanations, keep it simple and direct and find ways to encourage positive behavior rather than always discouraging negative behaviorOne thing I did not like about this book is that it assumed a stay-at-home mother in all cases. So all the examples were like "when the dad gets home, he can spend one-on-one time with one kid while the mom bathes the others and puts them to bed" and stuff like that. A sample day schedule was entirely focused on a stay-at-home mother so for a two-job couple like us, I found it hard to translate some of the suggestions to our varied schedule and caregivers.

  • Lori
    2019-01-07 00:13

    Garbage. This book assumes that the mom is the only one parenting the child. This book was first published in 2003! It states that girls excel at talking but not math and engineering. Seriously?? Even if you can see past that, this book reads like a Buzzfeed article that was stretched into a book. Hard pass.

  • Christina
    2018-12-24 00:21

    I just re-read this one to help me with my 13 month old twins. It doesn't give you warm fuzzies or anything, but it sure helped get me in gear and back on track with parenting them. Especially regarding high chair manners. I didn't think they were that bad, but as I read they do just about every naughty thing on the list... drop food/silverware off the tray, put dirty utensils in their hair, scream (for fun), spit raspberries while eating, grab the spoon when I'm feeding them, etc. I've gotten better about reinforcing sign language with them as a result of reading this and have seen positive results in just two days. I really believe in the importance of individual play time and it's pretty amazing to see my one-year olds focus for 30-45 minutes at a time, all alone without direction. This seems especially important for twins who constantly have another guy their size messing with them and trying to take their toys all day. This is a gem and can be read in one sitting.

  • Erin
    2019-01-21 00:19

    OK, the prose is painfully bad. I can't review this without saying that. The whole "land of good reason" imagery was honestly painful to read.That said, here are the ideas I took from it that I am going to try out with Emily:* It is important to focus on goals, rather than methods, when parenting. It will keep you grounded on why you do what you do.* Discipline matters in the little things, because it will set a pattern of obedience for the big things.* Too much freedom in environment = too overstimulated to learn properly.

  • Mandy J. Hoffman
    2018-12-26 01:13

    Anything you need to know about raising a toddler is found in this book.

  • Sue
    2018-12-31 22:06

    This book is dangerous.

  • Taco Tuesday
    2019-01-08 05:22

    I liked the sleep training method in Babywise, so I was hoping this would have some good general toddler information, but it was a huge miss for me. The chapter about creating a schedule read like it was straight from the 1950s, talking about how moms will be less stressed and will be able to get food on the table before dads come home if they just stick to the routine. There was a line that said something to the effect of “Dad should try to spend a few minutes with each child, even if a few minutes is all he has time for,” and I just lost it. This book was published in the early 2000s. There is just no excuse for this antiquated portrayal of American family life. What about more equitable parenting divisions? What about working moms and stay-at-home dads? What about nannies, day cares, and other child care options? So gross and unhelpful.

  • Luke Gruber
    2019-01-02 03:07

    Parenting is essentially a collection of advice from family, friends, books, and google. Not that everything heard should be employed, but having an understanding of various methods and solutions are helpful when refining your own parenting strategy. This book is just that. It’s helpful information for a 18-36 month year old child. I find all of these books written by the Ezzo’s to be helpful. This book was broader than the previous books and spoke more high level. Honestly, I thought the last chapter was better than the rest of the book combined. It was the most applicable. It was good.

  • Kelly
    2018-12-26 23:25

    I like this book. At first I was disappointed because I wanted it to be more like "If your child does this, then you should..." This books gets into the psychology and ethics/morals/decision-making much more than I expected. Which is not a bad thing, and I am sure it is necessary. But, it was refreshing for me to see some of the tactics that were popularized when I was a child. I like knowing that there are some things that we can reward our children for. And, I really liked that they pointed out that your toddler is not malicious, he is not "out to get you," etc. I think when we get caught up in the moment, it can definitely feel that way. I wish there was a little synopsis though of the things that were specific actions to take when your toddler does something a certain way.I really liked the stuff on structuring your day, and the need for the various types of play throughout the day. I completely agree with this. In our house, both parents work, so I am not planning to map out the days because it's not feasible for us. But, I will not forget the various forms of play on the weekend, and I can stop feeling guilty about not playing with my child 24/7 when I'm home from work because he needs time to play by himself. Generally, my toddler can roam around the downstairs because we keep it baby-proofed, but now that he is in his toddler phase, I feel like he is constantly following me around rather than playing with his toys. I found that when I put him in a smaller, gated area upstairs to play by himself, I have success for 15-30 minutes. He cries when he knows that I leave, but he quickly busies himself with his toys. This really opened my eyes to ways that we might overwhelming him.I also really enjoyed the focus on ensuring things are age appropriate. I definitely agree with this. This was something that I had thought long and hard about before I read the book, so I am really glad that they spent time addressing this.

  • Kate
    2019-01-17 05:03

    First of all, let me just say that I know some people are opposed to anything Ezzo has ever written. They think he's some kind of cult leader. Whatever. He's not, and like any child-rearing book, you need to consider what he says and use what's useful for you and your child. He's definitely not into attachment parenting, so if that's your thing, you probably won't agree with his ideas on parenting. But if you're open minded, then his books are worth reading.Like Babywise, this book's basic philosophy is that kids thrive on routine and structure. (You can refer to my review of Babywise for more on how that worked for us. Let's just say, I'm positive that Lily sleeping through the night at 5.5 weeks wasn't a coincidence.)The authors talk about things like giving your child's day structure and routine, being proactive in using that time for learning and play, and being consistent on other elements of your interaction with him. They also talk about things such as different ways of communicating with your toddler, which I found really useful. The whole thing was practical, and I definitely gleaned a lot from it. I think the major thing I'm taking away is that I need to be a little more intentional in how I structure our time during the day; I think this will prevent Lily from getting bored as easily. I also want to help her work on self-control and more self-directed playtimes (such as blanket time).Any book that gives you several useful things to use with your child is worth reading to me!

  • Laura
    2019-01-14 05:11

    I appreciated this book. Again, I don't necessary agree with EVERYTHING, just like I didn't agree with EVERYTHING in Babywise, but I did appreciate the structure and authority presented in this book. I KNOW in my head that I am Cannon's authority, but sometimes when in you're in the nitty gritty of the day with the whining and crying you start to doubt yourself. I thought this was a much better read than Babywise II.Goals for your child:Moral - self, control, obedience, patience, manners, focus, concentration, relationshipsAcademic - gross & fine motor, ABs, math, reading, writingSpiritualRoutines should include meals, naps, roomtime, play time (free & structured), table activities, alone time, reading, and play groupsWork on - staying in bed until mom comes, pick up throughout the day, require eye contact and saying yes mommyThings don't happen all of a sudden - they've been little things that have been there all along.Give instructions, not suggestions. You don't need your child's permission to parent.

  • Summer
    2018-12-31 22:25

    I've read the first three books in the series within the past year or so, and I have loved them; they earned five stars from me. This one, however, only got three because I think that it could have been pared down to maybe 50 pages. They go back over a lot of the things covered in the other three, which has some value, I suppose, but they also go into great detail about potty training. Granted, that is definitely appropriate for toddlers, but they have a whole book dedicated to potty training, which I also own and plan on reading when the time comes.The 50 pages that it could have been are really good, though. I like their advice on teaching self-control, not over-feeding your child, teaching them boundaries, how to talk to your child, and not giving in to tantrums. I'm a huge fan of the Love and Logic series, and I think these all go very well together. That's probably also why this one didn't bowl me over like the others: I've recently read two of the L&L books, and they cover a lot of the same things. This book is worth the read, and definitely worth a skim.

  • Kristie Saccenti
    2019-01-10 03:21

    Now that my baby is starting to act more like a toddler than a baby, I'm willing to read any parenting book that will share wisdom on how to parent well. This book offers a lot of practical advice on a variety of topics pertaining to toddlers. It doesn't expound upon many of those topics though so some chapters left me with more questions than it gave answers. However, this book offers a good overview on "how tos" when it comes to raising toddlers.

  • Caroline
    2019-01-05 03:18

    The book provided some great ideas and reasons for obediance. I especially liked teaching a toddler "please, thank you, and yes mommy". This book is geared mostly for children from 1 - 2.5 years. I didn't like the way the authors spend a lengthy portion of the beginning bashing other parenting styles and books. Seems kind of hypocritical and stupid to criticize parents who are looking for parenting advice when that's exactly what this book does. It suggests that the Ezzo Baby, Toddler, Preschool Wise, etc book series are the only valid books regarding parenting. But, I am glad that I read it and did take a few great tips from the book. Many folks I've spoke to complained that the Baby Wise book was all about strict infant scheduling but I didn't find that was the case for this Toddlerwise book. It was plenty flexible for all types of parents.

  • Jenny
    2019-01-10 21:05

    BETTER THAN BABY WISE BY FAR!! But still lacked a lot of information but covered pretty much the basics and most of all you'll need to know. Some baby books go overboard with detail and "what might be" with your child, so if you like something that doesn't give you all the "this happens to 0.1% of children" well then you are good to go. The scheduling the authors recommends for toddlers is a bit overboard but some good practices to take in. There were still some basic questions about potty training they did not take into account but all because they wanted to plug their other book ALL about potty training. Do I have to buy a book on every subject just to get more info? Again though, better than Baby Wise so not too many complaints.

  • Jennifer
    2019-01-23 01:21

    What a great book! I loved the whole concept of morals-based parenting and expecting your child to obey. Really, how difficult is this concept - I am the parent, you are the child! Biggest takeaway - don't give your child a command you do not intent for them to follow (and that you are not willing to enforce). The scheduling ideas are great, but who on earth has time for all of that stuff in one day - we have been doing a VERY modified version and it is working wonders - especially the consistent wake up and sleep times and the set morning and evening "rituals". This is a book I plan to revisit often!

  • Chelsea
    2019-01-10 05:21

    I really enjoyed reading this book. As a mother of an eighteen month old, I find myself many times at a lose for what to do with her growing curiosity and development. The author of this book, Gary Ezzo, has provided great insight on dealing with the many challenges that come with raising a toddler. I did not completely agree with all of his philosophies or the philosophies of others mentioned in the book; however, I was able to take great insight into many of the questions I was having. For example potty training, temper tantrums, and eating habits, to name a few. Great book for any mother!!!

  • Ellie Sorota
    2019-01-11 02:16

    I've enjoyed all the Babywise series I've read. I attempt everything they suggest whether it sticks or not and appreciate the long-term perspective. This book spends the bulk of its time on parenting "whys," encouraging the reader to use the "Why" to arrive at a "How". That is, keeping the larger goal in mind when dealing with an immediate need. The developing mind of a toddler is also covered.The short topic pools tend to handle the majority of my concerns. Covered briefly are: naps, potty training, teaching self-control, dealing with tantrums and more. This book had less new material than previous books in the Babywise series, but I enjoyed it nonetheless.

  • Katie
    2019-01-06 05:02

    I love love love this book. It helped me develop more structure & find more activities for my son to do. I like the idea of structured play, room time etc. and am starting it early. I also need to work harder on healthy boundaries for my son like not letting him play with keys or remotes or cell phones, etc. The Babywise books helped me master sleep & meals early on- so this toddler discipline/structure plan comes very easy. I highly recommend this to any mom or dad looking to help develop good & healthy habits early on for their child. :)

  • Sarah
    2019-01-05 01:11

    This book was slightly overwhelming. I started it after my son had already been in the toddler age range for a while. I started getting anxious reading about all the things that I was not doing right according to this book. In structuring your day and in handling daily routines, it seemed overwhelming to me. On the other hand, it had some great points and advice. I gathered some good information and tips and am just praying that I'm doing everything right for our family. This is a good read, but I'm not sure if everything in it works for every family.

  • Cori Cover
    2019-01-21 01:25

    I enjoyed this parenting book as I have the other ones in this series (Babywise, etc). They have some great tips on disciplining 1-2 year olds, and some good philosophy on parenting in general. With some of the tips, I initially thought, "yeah, right, that's not going to work", but have been pleasantly surprised that they do. But as with all parenting books, I have the same belief - don't be a slave to the book. Each child is different and unique, as is every family, and not every word is going to apply.

  • Alexia
    2019-01-10 21:25

    I think it was really helpful. My husband and I pretty much read it in 2 days because we are desperate. Our son will be 3 in less than a month, so we are moving on to " On Becoming Childwise." I wish I read this when my son was a year old so that we could ahve started structuring his days and education better. We did Babywise and really stand by it. That book was a lifesaver. I will definitely be going through this series again if I have another child. I am again a HUGE supporter of Babywise! Saved our life.

  • Heather
    2019-01-23 23:07

    This book is okay- but everything it says is said SO much more simply by Mel Hayde in Terrific Toddlers. It does have some more specific ideas on how to implement the philosophies, so that's helpful. It's not bad, it was just too much intellectual fluff for me. The one chapter I did really like was written by a contributor, not the author... Read Terrific Toddlers and Parenting with Love and Logic instead and save your precious reading time.

  • Michelle
    2018-12-28 21:11

    helpful explanation of toddler behavior and psychology. offers solid advice for how and why to do certain things as a parent. Except I wish there was more on the topic of nursing and weaning and on sleep. I also felt like it lost credibility when in a section about fear, it references Disney's "Dumbo" and says something about "even the death of Dumbo's mother can be frightening for a toddler" - DUMBO'S MOTHER DOESN'T DIE! Maybe they are confused with Bambi?

  • Rebekah
    2019-01-18 00:14

    i love this guys books. They are a little controversial but i like his parenting technique. He doesn't "dumb down" children, but expects a lot even from very young ones. I think his philosophy should be taken with a grain of salt, but its refreshing to see someone who believes parents should exhibit control over their children, and that gives me hope that just maybe those who read it won't raise a new batch of spoiled brats!

  • Bonnie
    2019-01-01 00:58

    I skimmed some parts, but overall, this book had some great thoughts and tips for raising a toddler on the right track to become a decent preschooler/older child. I found it to be a beneficial read to get some ideas of what it's reasonable to expect from my one year old and what it's not and some great ideas for some training to work on with him soon.

  • Audra
    2018-12-26 05:21

    So far I am very pleased with the results. I took the advice that I thought might work for me and my child and left what I didn't care for. My son does so much better on a schedule and this series helps me to figure one out. I will definitely continue with the next book when he hits the appropriate age.

  • barbara hinderer
    2019-01-21 01:57

    I don't follow this method completely, though we did for their first book, babywise. it has great information for structuring the day and when/what/how to do playtimes that I find invaluable. With twins, I find that having structure saves me a lot of unnecessary stress, chaos and frustration. If you or your child thrive on routine, this book definitely has some great in put for you!

  • Lisa
    2019-01-18 01:26

    A little cheesy, and I kept thinking that I probably would not get along well with these authors in real life when talking about kid stuff. Still, there are always some useful tips and strategies. If you are new to parenting or are looking to discover your own parenting style for toddlers, it is worth a read.