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Your Seven-Year-Old is devoted to the delightful but often anxious and withdrawn child of Seven. Although any seven-year-old will have moments of exuberance, security, and happiness, in general this is an age of introspection. As it begins, parents and teachers may welcome the quiet after the tussles and tangles of Six. But once the child of Seven starts to withdraw it’s aYour Seven-Year-Old is devoted to the delightful but often anxious and withdrawn child of Seven. Although any seven-year-old will have moments of exuberance, security, and happiness, in general this is an age of introspection. As it begins, parents and teachers may welcome the quiet after the tussles and tangles of Six. But once the child of Seven starts to withdraw it’s almost as though he doesn't know where or when to stop. Seven-year-olds feel picked on by family, friends, and teachers alike; they worry that no one likes them; they expect every little task to prove too difficult to handle; tears come easily at this age.   With wit and wisdom, Dr. Ames of the highly respected Gesell Institute and Carol Chase Haber offer insights into what children this age are feeling and thinking, and how parents can best deal with these moody, serious Sevens.  Included in this book: • New body awareness • Sulking • Concerns about fairness • Stories from real life • Fascination with horror, gore • Threats of running away from home • Life in the second grade • Books for Sevens and the parents of Sevens “Louise Bates Ames and her colleagues synthesize a lifetime of observation of children, consultation, and discussion with parents. These books will help parents to better understand their children and will guide them through the fascinating and sometimes trying experiences of modern parenthood.”—Donald J. Cohen, M.D., Director, Yale Child Study Center, Irving B. Harris Professor of Child Psychiatry, Pediatrics, and Psychology, Yale School of Medicine...

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  • Jenny
    2019-02-24 12:10

    I love this series. I have been reading them since Elizabeth was 3, and so far I find them incredibly insightful and wise. Almost every time I feel frustrated with my children's behaviors I can find a calming solution and answer in these books.Here is a gem from this book: "In addition to having many worries and fears, the child of this age often feels that he has "all the bad luck." As one girl expressed it, "Why do I always have the bad luck? Why do things so often happen to me? I might as well be dead." The bad luck in this case was that it was time for her to go to bed."And another: "Seven's characteristic expression may be a frown, with lips curled downward. Tears come easily, although the child may try to hold them back, because he is embarrassed to cry in front of other people. Also, Seven is easily disappointed. Things so often do not turn out as expect. If things go wrong at play, he is likely to leave the group, mumbling to himself, "I'm quittin'." At home a Seven-year-old boy rushes to his room and slams the door; he may even threaten to run away from home."And the best, which more parents should be aware of: "People all too often do not behave in a way that satisfies the child of this age, who thinks they are mean, hateful, unfriendly, always picking on him. He thinks his teacher, especially, picks on him, and parents of Seven-year-olds are well advised not to believe all the tales of maltreatment and unfairness that their children may bring home from school."

  • Leta Blake
    2019-02-03 10:27

    I truly wish someone would take on the task of updating these wonderful, reassuring, and helpful books. They are incredibly helpful in terms of discussing behaviors associated with the various ages, but are definitely outdated in many regards, unfortunately. That doesn't mean you shouldn't buy or read the book! It simply means that you should be prepared for outmoded thoughts on gender (to a degree) and no longer acceptable terms like "Gyp" which is understood these days to be a racial slur. If you're capable of understanding that these books were written over twenty years ago, and filtering that information through today's lenses, then I think you'll find the books incredibly and undeniably soothing with regard to understanding your child at any age. I started this series with Your Six Year Old and just bought Your Seven Year old because my kiddo (who is almost seven) has been driving me nuts. Such a relief to read that all of her behaviors are common at her age. Sometimes a parent just wants to know that he/she hasn't failed utterly already at the child's tender age of seven.

  • Grace
    2019-01-29 18:25

    I read the series at the suggestion of a friend. If I hadn't had so much respect for the friend, I would have quit after the first book.So far, the books have not described my child or given me any insight or help. I might as well have read Tarot cards. Perhaps Tarot cards would have been more useful...

  • Deanna Brauer
    2019-02-24 12:05

    I'm fascinated about how right on this book is. It's helping me understand my soon-to-be 7-year-old much better. I love this author and have every book in this series.

  • Tara Brown
    2019-02-11 12:30

    I felt like this book was written about my son. I read it out loud to both him and my husband and we had very thoughtful conversations about some of the topics. I can't express how relieved I am to know that he's a normal kid. I'm also grateful for some of the suggestions on how to communicate with him and empathize with his feelings. Is the book super old and the social examples outdated? Sure, but it's pretty easy to look past that and focus on what matters - how your son or daughter is developing at this stage in life. If you are a parent wondering what to do when your child comes home crying and saying no one likes them, then read this book!

  • Elizabeth Bober
    2019-02-03 18:24

    A short, useful look into the typical development of a 7 year old. Turns out a lot of us have a muttering, quickly offended teenager-in-a-7s-body on our hands.One note: this series was published in 1980 and wow does it show in the social applications. Example: "a party for a 7 can be accomplished with two people: Mother and a helper." We've had a generation of change in households and parenting styles and an update would help these books along.

  • Maggie
    2019-01-27 13:22

    Good information but seriously needs to be updated.

  • Amanda
    2019-02-02 11:28

    Honestly, I mostly just needed the subtitle ("Life in a Minor Key") to reassure me that my struck-with-ennui 7-year-old was within the bounds of normal behavior. Lately my husband and I have been asking ourselves how we suddenly have a mopey 15-year-old in our lives in the body of a young boy, but this book explains it.I've enjoyed the other age books in this series and try to pick up the coming age just as my children are turning it. Unfortunately, our library didn't have the one for 3 years old, so I'm winging that with his younger brother! ;)The books, including this one, might not apply exactly to your child. They read a little like a fortune telling in that there's language that "Seven IS like this or that" rather than "could be," but then she also casts a wider net and suggest variations on typical behavior. But I do feel she's basing her descriptions on typical developmental patterns, which apply to many but not necessarily all of children in that age grouping.One thing I've noticed, and she touches on this in the books as well, is that often there'll be a change halfway through the year. So 2 years old might be compliant and pleasant, but 2.5-3 might be a horror show. It gives me reassurance to read that other parents and kids are going through the same developmental struggles, and hope to know that if things are rotten, they'll change soon enough. (Of course, the other shoe is that things that are going really smoothly will also change, but what are you going to do?)Many people have expressed distaste with how dated the books are. I'm kind of weird, I guess, in that I find the retro pictures charming. They remind me of my younger brother's childhood. (Yes, I'm now old enough that a book with "old" pictures doesn't even encompass my own childhood. C'est la vie.) I'll admit that the language could use some updating, but I'll take what I can get for now. I don't think being from the 1980s makes these books less valuable.

  • Lee Anne
    2019-02-20 16:30

    While it is always helpful to do some reading up on my child, and this book did give me some insight into why a seven year-old is more introspective and pessimistic than previous years, my main takeaway from this book is that it is in MAJOR need of an update. The copyright date is 1985 (with what appears to be an original date of 1980), and the pictures and text reflect that. There is little mention of computers (and of course no internet), a suggested fun party game for girls is "pin the bow on the Ms. Pac-Man," and I wonder how many of the clinical studies cited have since been disproved. There is also an appendix of suggested reading, and I have no doubt many of the titles listed are long out of print. So take this for what it is: some good words of reassurance, couched in an irrelevant package.

  • Elizabeth
    2019-02-01 14:10

    As I began reading this book, I was impressed at how well the authors were describing my child: they characterized her interests and behavior, and some of the quotes they used from seven-year-olds might have been overheard at my house the past few weeks. If I'd turned the page and read, "Eh, she's just seven. Have a glass of wine and she'll be eight before you know it," I wouldn't have been entirely surprised. Sadly, that's not actually what they said. In fact, I wouldn't say that I took a lot of advice away from this book. But it did do a good job reassuring me that a lot of what I've been seeing as problematic is actually developmentally normal, and confirmed my belief that flexibility and a lot of loving reassurance can go a long way in improving things. I suppose that's true at any age, but it's good to have the reminder.

  • Dolly
    2019-02-01 17:14

    This is a short book that outlines the typical personality characteristics and quirks that defines the seven-year-old child. So far, in my limited experience, it's fairly spot on and it highlighted to me the cyclical nature of child development, where children drift in and out of inwardized behavior and outwardized behavior as well as shifts in disequilibrium and equilibrium. While not all situations or behaviors will fit every child, it is still a good guide for what to expect. As it was written in 1985, some of the technology references are hopelessly out of date and the photographs are more nostalgic than anything. But it's a decent, quick read, and provides me with some reassurances about the changing nature of our oldest's behavior (and why it's perfectly age appropriate.)

  • Meghan Pinson
    2019-01-25 17:23

    These books are great -- the Gesell series has one book for each year, and I've been reading them since the year I spotted the title "Your Three-Year-Old: Friend or Enemy?". Their theory is that children go through periods of equilibrium and disequilibrium, during which they are more or less organized, which means a different set of behaviors and attitudes for different ages. They describe the nature of the beast at each point in time, and very good and reasonable ways of managing difficult times. Their theories and advice make more sense and describe Alex better than any other child-rearing books I've read, so I pick one up every year. Mission accomplished for year seven! The rest should be a breeze.

  • Rebekah
    2019-02-17 11:30

    Has some generally helpful insights into typical behavioral changes between six and seven. I never got around to the precious book (Loving and Defiant. Still resonates) but I'll have a seven year old in a few months so I got a jump. I've seen her evolving.I like the personal letters from parents. I found those far more concrete than the bulk of the writing. I realize that one book can't pin down every child but still, I had a hard time really sticking with this all the way through. I jumped around and came back. Yes, some of it really shows its publishing decade. I found those references to computers amusing. However I did feel the relationships with parents could use an update. It's worth a read but I wouldn't consider it a parenting staple.

  • Karen Hipson
    2019-02-09 16:29

    If you have a six or seven year old, I strongly recommend that you get this book and read it several times. Read some of it with your child, even. It is one of the best books I've read about this age group. I am a huge fan of "The Wonder Weeks"... this is the same idea but taken so much further and into higher ages. If your kids is confusing, frustrating or overwhelming you, this might give you some insight to help you see what's going on inside.It is part of a series that starts at age one and ends at age 10-14. I think the whole set would be an incredible gift to a new parent... it'd be like having a whole room full of experienced parents sitting on your bookcase.

  • Elizabeth
    2019-02-09 18:15

    Illuminating. This series always surprises me with its ability to reassure and educate me as a parent. Each book always provides an exact example of one of the behaviors I'm concerned (or feeling impatient!) about. In this case it was that 7 year old children will typically feel that EVERYTHING bad happens to them. This, after I was just explaining to someone that our #3 might be a bit of an "Eeyore." How does Louise Bates Ames do that? Who cares. I felt instantly reassured. And for that, Ms. Ames, I thank thee.

  • Ginger Clausen
    2019-02-16 13:08

    This is the best series of books for parenting children aged 1-8! These books have helped me countless times in raising my four kids! The books show the stages of learning that chidren go through so you can understand why your child is behaving the way they are- what they are learning and how that affects their behavior. Kids are pretty predictable as they go through the basic stages such as self awareness and attachment to parents, learning, etc.

  • Jill
    2019-02-24 14:30

    I'd probably give it 3 1/2 stars if I could. Was written in the 80s, so has a bit of a dated feel, but I didn't mind, it was charming in a way. Easy read. Best part of reading this is to find that a lot of the behavior I'm seeing in my seven-year-old is normal and is probably a phase that will pass. And reading about the problems that other kids/parents are having often makes me feel better about my own situation! I also liked that the author seems laid back--not a hyper-parenting type.

  • Elizabeth
    2019-01-24 16:31

    I'm always so surprised when I pick up one of the books in this series (usually when I'm wondering what has possessed my otherwise lovely child!) how spot-on on they are. I was nodding my head just reading they synopsis on the back, and even more so when reading the book itself. Definitely reassuring.

  • Jody Florence
    2019-01-30 16:26

    I know these books are outdated and somewhat old-fashioned, but I consistently find some very helpful nuggets of information to help explain a behavior quirk I am seeing in one of my kids. It is immensely helpful to know that a quirk is normal for his age as opposed to wondering/worrying that it is something I need to correct/change.

  • Laura
    2019-02-06 14:16

    I always manage to read the books in this series right when I am convinced I have forever screwed up my children and failed as a parent. My takeaways from this one- 7 year olds are overwhelmingly negative and this disequilibrium phase lasts an entire year. For people who've never read this series, they are very dated but chock full of great developmental information.

  • Dan Cloak
    2019-02-15 12:12

    Reassuring and on-targetMy daughter turned seven only three weeks ago, but I already see much of the pensive affect and inward focus described in this book. The advice is often obvious and/or outdated. However, the reassurance of seeing that my own child's changes are "normal" for seven made the read time very well spent.

  • Monique
    2019-02-03 10:18

    If you want to know why your almost-seven year old is driving you nuts, pick this one up. I'm not sure how much help it's really going to give you (this seemed a bit less helpful than other volumes in the series) but at least you know it's *not* you and you are not crazy...though you may be nuts by the time your child turns 8!

  • Jenn
    2019-01-30 15:21

    Every book in this series is great! Your seven year old explains what you can expect from your child and how (very little) you can influence their behavior. These have saved me much worry and fruitless effort. My daughter is so perfectly described, it's almost like she read the book to get her role just right!

  • Stacy
    2019-02-16 12:28

    This whole series of books, while dated, is really interesting. I feel like they give me some knowledge for dealing with different behavioral stages my daughter is going through. And you can read them in an afternoon. I highly recommend them.

  • Christie
    2019-02-07 11:29

    The Baudelaires end up in yet another unhappy place. The vile village is filled with stuffy elders and more crows than one can count. The rules are stifling, the children are basically slaves, and they still haven't found where Count Olaf is keeping those Quagmire triplets.

  • Jill
    2019-02-11 10:04

    Helpful to get some insights in what to expect during the age of Seven. Even though each kid is different, it is helpful to get a base line of what might be happening in my little 7 year olds heart, mind and head!

  • Ylva
    2019-02-02 13:25

    I've been feeling the need to find some ages and stages books again and this is highly acclaimed but sereiously and laughably dated. Even so it gave good insight and I'll keep checking the series as we move along.

  • Tawnya
    2019-01-26 17:03

    So, my library didn't have a copy of Your Six Year Old, but my daughter is 6.5 so I figured this was the next best thing. Glad I read it, it touched down on some of the six behaviors I'm struggling with right now so I'm off to but a copy of Your Six Year Old.

  • Sarah
    2019-02-24 18:12

    Already feeling better in the first few pages because its totally describing my seven year old: moody, argumentative, "you like her better", and anxious. So relieved to hear that's "normal". Looking forward to reading the rest.

  • Inder
    2019-02-02 14:23

    Lovely and reassuring. As with this whole series, this was so lovely, calm, reassuring, and softly humorous. Out of date or old fashioned? That's your call, but I find it still relevant and useful. As to seven year olds- the title says it all!